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Immediacy is valued by many. We want what we want and we want it now! The whole concept of delayed gratification has become nearly...
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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog about submission, kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 2, 2016
- 4 min
Are Safe Words Necessary?
One of the core principles of BDSM play is that players, all players, have a right to protect their body and mind. We stress consent,...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Oct 20, 2016
- 5 min
S-type Must be Autonomous
I know that seems counter-intuitive to most people. Isn’t the role of an s-type based on giving power, sometimes total power, to a...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Sep 26, 2016
- 7 min
Consent: 2016 sstyle
One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Sep 12, 2016
- 4 min
On Certainty
At some point in the last decade culture in the United States started demanding that people be certain about everything. We collectively...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jul 19, 2016
- 3 min
The Need to Serve
Service is quintessential to much of submission. Submissives of many ilks incorporate some form of service into their submission. We...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 6, 2016
- 5 min
Measuring Up: Part Two
I was invited to roast a friend’s husband for his birthday last night. She started the show by mentioning they had just finished a 27 day...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Mar 1, 2016
- 5 min
Is Submission a Gift?
“Submission is a gift.” I hear that phrase constantly in the kink community. I hear submissives say it. I hear Dom(me)s say it. Switches...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Dec 10, 2015
- 5 min
Is Sex Always Part of BDSM?
I have had a bunch of conversations lately about incorporating sex into BDSM play. Some people have to have both in a session, others do...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 4, 2015
- 6 min
Open Letter to Dominants
Dear Doms and Dommes: Thank you. Thank you for enjoying your role on the left of the slash. Without you, my life would not be nearly as...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Oct 29, 2015
- 7 min
The ‘Woo’ of Kink
My last post about sub space got a flood of responses. Most of the 3,000+ people who replied here and on Fetlife were very complimentary....
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Rebecca Blanton
- Oct 25, 2015
- 6 min
What Everyone Needs to Know About Sub Space
Image from www.korucorner.co.nz All rights reserved. When I was an undergrad, I took a course on altered states of consciousness. The...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jul 15, 2015
- 6 min
Loving a Sub with Mental Illness
I live with Bipolar I. I have since I was about 11, diagnosed at 20. It is fundamental to who I am and I have never not thought about it...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 16, 2015
- 7 min
Feminism, Bad Feminism, Choice, and Submission
I am a feminist. I am a submissive. This is my choice. There is no conflict between the two for me. However, my submission is not an act...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Apr 29, 2015
- 7 min
Myths About Submission
I want to talk about perceptions versus reality of submission. There are a lot of misconceptions for both vanilla folks and newbie...
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