Resources
This is a list of vetted resources. I have personally used, read, listened to, taken classes from, or otherwise interacted with the items on the list below. I try to regularly update this list as I come across new, great resources for the kink world!
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LAST UPDATED 01/2023
Kink Education and Organization Sites
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BDSM Education Center www.BDSMEducCenter.com (broken link fixed 1/20/2020)
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Black Rose www.BR.org
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Center for Sex Positive Culture www.thecspc.org
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Community Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualitites www.carasresearch.org
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Black Thorn Black-Thorn.org
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Fetish.com has a list of BDSM groups across the US
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Folsom Street Events www.folsomstreetevents.org
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International Mr. Leather www.imrl.com
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International Ms. Leather and Boot Black www.imslbb.org
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Kink Academy www.KinkAcademy.com
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Kinkly Kinkly.com
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Kinsey Institute www.kinseyinstitute.org
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Leather and LGBTQ Cultural District, SF https://sfleatherdistrict.org/
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Leather Archives and Museum www.leatherarchives.org
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Lesbian Herstory Archives www.lesbianherstoryarchives.org
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Lesbian Sex Mafia www.lesbainsexmafia.org
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Museum of Sex www.museumofsex.com
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National Coalition for Sexual Freedom www.NCSFreedom.org
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National Leather Association International www.NLA-international.com
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Lavender Library and Cultural Exchange www.llace.org
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The Pleasure Coach http://www.thepleasurecoach.org/
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Sexual Alpha SexualAlpha.com
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Society of Janus www.soj.org
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The Exiles (lesbain org) www.theexiles.org
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Wicked Grounds www.WickedGrounds.com
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Woodhull Freedom Foundation www.woodhullfoundation.org
Books
Consent
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SSC v. Rack https://epochryphal.wordpress.com/2015/02/16/rack-vs-ssc-kink-consent-ableism-agency/
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Negotiating a BDSM Scene https://www.kinkweekly.com/article-jenn/negotiating-a-bdsm-scene/
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DevianceAndDesire 1 page negotiation form https://www.devianceanddesire.com/2016/04/tonight-i-want-negotiation-sheet/
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Kink Weekly Negotiation Checklist https://www.kinkweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/03/BDSM-negotiation-checklist.pdf
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Jay Wiseman Negotiation Long Form https://www.evilmonk.org/a/wiseman10.cfm
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Kink Closet Beginners BDSM Contracts https://www.lovense.com/bdsm-blog/bdsm-contract
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Midori Negotiating Consent Video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g9s0VVjIi38
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American Sex Podcast with Guest Midori “Hotter Negotiation” http://sunnymegatron.com/hotter-negotiation-midori-podcast/
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Kink Academy Podcast with Selena Minx “Negotiation is Hard!” https://erotication.libsyn.com/negotiation-is-hard-selina-minx-makes-it-easy
General Information
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Ayzad. (2016). BDSM: A Guide for Explorers of Extreme Eroticism.
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Blanton, Rebecca. Love Letters to a Unicorn: A book about kink, BDSM, and non-monogamy.(2nd edition)
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Blanton, Rebecca. The Big Workbook for Submissives.
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Brame, William, Gloria Brame, and John Williams. (2011). Different Loving: A Complete Exploration of the World of Sexual Dominance and Submission. Random House: New York.
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Califia, Pat and Robin Davies. (2012). Public Sex.
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Cruz, Ariane. The Color of Kink.
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Easson, Dossie. The Topping Book
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Easson, Dossie and Janet Hardy. The Ethical Slut
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Easson, Dossie and Janet Hardy. The Bottoming Book
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Gray, Luna. A Kinky Girl’s Guide to Dating.
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Harrington, Lee. Playing Well with Others.
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Kali, Princess. 365 Days of Kink.
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Midori. Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink
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Notte, JoEllen. (2020). The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression and the Conversations We are Not Having
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Perel, Esther. (2009). Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence.
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Strange, Natasha. (2023). Kink for the Curious: A BDSM Activity Book for Beginners.
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Stryker, Kitty. (2020). Ask: Building a Culture of Consent.
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Tizano, Shay. (2021). Creating Captivating Classes.
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Thompson, Mark, Dorothy Allison, Guy Baldwin, etc. (2013). Leatherfolk: Radical sex, people, politics, and practice. Deadalus Press: New York.
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van der Kolk, Bessel. The Body Keeps the Score.
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Wiseman, Jay. SM 101
Impact Play
Pet Play
“A Glimpse Into the World of Puppy Play”
Rope
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Harrington, Lee and Rigger Jay. More Shibari You Can Use.
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Midori and Craig Morey. The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage.
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Tizano, Shay. Tying and Flying.
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Two Knotty Boys and Larry Utley. Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes.
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Vane, Evie. Better Bondage for Every Body.
Health, Aging, and Disability
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Notte, JoEllen. The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We are Not Having.
Body Liberation
Cottom, Tressie McMillian. (2018). THICK: And other essays.. The New Press.
Gay, Roxane. Hunger: A Memoir of (My) Body. Harper.
Kent, Clarkisha. (2023). Fat Off, Fat On! A Big Bitch Manifesto. CUNY Feminist Press.
King, Chrissy. (2023). The Body Liberation Project. Tiny Reparations Books.
Taylor, Sonia Renee. (2018). The Body is Not an Apology. The Power of Radical Self-Love. Berette-Kohler Press.
Taylor, Sonia Renee. (2021) The Body is Not an Apology Workbook. Berette-Kohler Press.
van der Kolk, Bessel. (2018). The Body Keeps the Score.
Relationship Orientations (nonmonogamy, polyamory, mixed styles)
Books
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Fern, Jessica. Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy.
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Hardy, Janet and Dossie Easson. The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Nonmonogamy, and other Freedoms in Sex and Love
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Patterson, Kevin and Ruby Bouie Johnson. Love Is Not Colorblind: Race and Representation in Polyamory and Other Alternative Communities.
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Taormino, Tristan. Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
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Veaux, Franklin. More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Polyamory
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Williams, Dan and Dawn Williams. (2022). Hearts and Collars: Lessons from 20 Years in a Power Exchange Relationship..
Podcasts
Blogs
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Erotic Awakening
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Kink Academy: Blog posts, video instruction and more from top kink educators!
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Submissive Feminist: Personal blog
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Submissive Guide All things submissive. Well informed and sourced.
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Sugarbutch D/s, queer, gender nonconforming
Podcasts
Reputable Vendors
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Cheapestees.com (tshirts and merch producers with extended sizes)
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CityChicOnline – great lingerie and playwear for extended sizes. Bras as large as 50G
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Dark Garden (corsets)
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Geeky and Kinky (apparel and accessories)
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Twisted Monk (rope)
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Wicked Grounds (San Francisco, CA)
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