I adore having protocols in a relationship. Those rules and rituals power exchange couples create to serve their relationship provide a...

Shyness is something I have had a problem with personally. However, I have had several partners who are deeply reticent to talk about...

I can’t believe I haven’t written a blog post on topping from the bottom! How could I be so remiss of addressing a topic which comes up...

It’s National Mental Health Awareness Month so lets talk about power exchange and mental illness. Depending on the source, between 20 and...

Power exchange relationships have many similarities to vanilla relationships. Both require kindness, understanding, communication, and...

A couple of months ago I was performing with Bawdy Storytelling and had the great pleasure of hearing Race Bannon tell a story about the...

The submissive’s body is a unique thing. Our body is ours, first and foremost. We have the right and the responsibility to keep it safe....

We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...

I know that seems counter-intuitive to most people. Isn’t the role of an s-type based on giving power, sometimes total power, to a...

At some point in the last decade culture in the United States started demanding that people be certain about everything. We collectively...

After teaching my class “Power Exchange and Mental Illness” several times and corresponding with folks online who have read my writing...

My first serious girlfriend told me I was not worth the risk to marry because I had Bipolar. She knew this when we got together. Still,...

Dear Doms and Dommes: Thank you. Thank you for enjoying your role on the left of the slash. Without you, my life would not be nearly as...