Negotiating Flexibility Into Your Dynamic
So often newer kinky folks hold up the 24/7 dynamic as the "pinnacle" of kinky relationships. The fantasy of this dynamic is that it...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 3, 2022
- 7 min
Grooming as BDSM and D/s
Most of BDSM and kink skills focus on techniques for different types of play (e.g., flogging, spanking). However, the world of BDSM is...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Mar 28, 2022
- 4 min
The #1 Thing Dom(me)s Hate!
I work with a lot of kinky folks of all identities and levels of experience. When I talk to folks from the left side of the slash, they...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Mar 15, 2022
- 3 min
Should Submissives Express THEIR Needs?
When you are submissive or enjoy being submissive with a partner, navigating your own desires can be tricky. As submissives, we sometime...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Feb 21, 2022
- 2 min
One Question Every Submissive Needs to Answer
When I am on my knees, looking up at my Dom, waiting on his command, I am in complete bliss. There is something wonderful and liberating...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Feb 9, 2022
- 6 min
EARN IT Act: Using the pretense of child sexual exploitation to invade privacy
Ah, politicians are once again engaging in a favorite past-time: fanning fears of massive child predator rings as a pretense to get rid...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jan 12, 2022
- 4 min
Dating in an On-going Pandemic
Being single, or at least being in a position to date, during the pandemic is challenging. We all crave human touch and interaction. We...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Oct 23, 2021
- 5 min
BDSM Tips for Beginners
Sponsored Post from HotCherry.com Of all sex practices, BDSM might just be the most misunderstood. Many people associate it with...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Sep 20, 2021
- 3 min
What Can You Do If You Disagree with Your Dominant?
One of the most difficult issues of being a submissive or other s-type is having a disagreement with your dominant. Power exchange...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Sep 12, 2021
- 4 min
5 Common Beliefs Which Undermine Your Sex Life
You receive messages about sex and sexuality your entire live. From the media you watch, listen to, and read, to how your parents...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Aug 2, 2021
- 5 min
7 Tips When You Are New to Kink
Whether you personally are new to kink, or you are dating someone new to kink, it is an exciting time filled with fun and learning! It...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jul 22, 2021
- 6 min
Combining Weed and Kink? Read This!
Photo by Kindel Media on Pexels.com Weed is now legal in 18 U.S. states and the District of Columbia; two countries (Canada and Uruguay)...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 29, 2021
- 4 min
7 Tips to Help You Screen For Abusers on Kink Sites
In a most predictable move, once BDSM became a topic most American’s had heard about, abusers co-opted its language to justify their...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 22, 2021
- 7 min
7 Tips for Hosting an Orgy
As more of us get vaccinated and back out there, so many of y’all are posting about having a slutty summer. Yay! I strongly encourage...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 25, 2021
- 5 min
Do This BEFORE a Partner Cheats
Listen on Spotify Finding out your partner has cheated on you is often devastating. Regardless of your relationship style (monogamous,...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Apr 28, 2021
- 12 min
What Is a Submissive’s Responsibility?
I love it when I come across people writing about submission in a deep and thoughtful way! If you have not discovered The Pleasure Coach,...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Apr 9, 2021
- 4 min
Need a Little Sexy Inspiration? Try This!
One think a lot of people new to kink and BDSM find surprising is that even with the most experienced kinky folks, we can get a bit bored...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Mar 15, 2021
- 4 min
7 Tips for Navigating the Post-COVID Kink World
Things are beginning to open back up in the United States and elsewhere. While we are not at a point with public health to fully reopen...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Aug 14, 2020
- 10 min
30 Days of Kinky Self Discovery
A formatted and printable version of this post is located here: 30 days of kinky self-discoveryDownload I’ll be honest. I have been...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 23, 2020
- 8 min
Fisting 101
So, you want to try fisting. Or you heard about it. Or you tried it and it didn’t quite work. Well, let me welcome you to the wonderful...
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