Undoing Religious Damage with BDSM
How to start addressing trauma and damage from a sex-negative upbringing.
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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog covering kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a submissive or bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
- Aug 19, 2022
- 5 min
Is Your Kink Practice Missing Something Critical?
If you have been listening to Fat Chicks on Top, you know I’ve been talking to a variety of kinky folks who entered the scene over 20...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jul 24, 2022
- 2 min
Sexual Fantasy Research
Sponsored Post We don’t tend to talk about sexual fantasies with many people. Too many of us carry shame around the things we know turn...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 10, 2022
- 4 min
Unfuck Yourself for Pride
Being part of the LGBTQ+ community means growning up in societies where we are not supported or embraced by the majority. If we are lucky...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 1, 2022
- 1 min
Pride 2022
Happy Pride!!! Pride is an ever-evolving event. It started as a riot against abusive policing. It has become a party, a way to take a...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 3, 2022
- 4 min
Kink-Life Balance: Is 24/7 Really for You?
In the world of BDMS, power exchange, and kinky shenanigans, people who identify as having a 24/7 dynamic are often seen as the “ideal”...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Apr 17, 2022
- 2 min
“No White People Left Behind”
Imani Barbarin I had a wonderful conversation with disabilities activist Imani Barbarin. You can hear our conversation here or the...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Oct 7, 2021
- 5 min
4 Unexepected ways Audio Porn is Better Than Sex
By April Sutphen Sponsored Post Some people might argue that there’s no better feeling in the world than having sex, when in actuality,...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Aug 2, 2021
- 5 min
7 Tips When You Are New to Kink
Whether you personally are new to kink, or you are dating someone new to kink, it is an exciting time filled with fun and learning! It...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 29, 2021
- 4 min
7 Tips to Help You Screen For Abusers on Kink Sites
In a most predictable move, once BDSM became a topic most American’s had heard about, abusers co-opted its language to justify their...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 4, 2021
- 2 min
25 Books to Read & 25 Movies to Watch this PRIDE Month
Books This is a list of queer books that have stayed with me. I provide only the citation and genre so that you can enjoy them without...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Apr 28, 2021
- 12 min
What Is a Submissive’s Responsibility?
I love it when I come across people writing about submission in a deep and thoughtful way! If you have not discovered The Pleasure Coach,...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Mar 15, 2021
- 4 min
7 Tips for Navigating the Post-COVID Kink World
Things are beginning to open back up in the United States and elsewhere. While we are not at a point with public health to fully reopen...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Mar 11, 2021
- 5 min
6 Tips on Making Your Kink Venue/Event Emotionally/Socially Accessible (Part 2)
Physical accessibility is only part of the picture when it comes to making spaces and events accessible. That is often the easy part! If...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Oct 31, 2020
- 5 min
Election 2020 and Erotic Power
With the 2020 election just days from now, I have spent an enormous amount of time thinking about power: structural power, institutional...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 25, 2020
- 3 min
BDSM Resources (updated 01.09.22)
I’ve been asked by several folx to provide a set of good readings on D/s dynamics. While this is far from a complete list, here is a good...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Feb 19, 2020
- 6 min
5 Ways BDSM Will Improve Your Life
Most people think BDSM is just about the sex. It is often reduced to sexual and sexualized acts, especially in mainstream media...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Aug 27, 2019
- 4 min
Sexier Sex? Plan for it!
I can remember the first time I read Macho Sluts by Pat Califia. While all the sex was really hot, a few of the stories stood out because...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 18, 2019
- 3 min
Why Collars Are Important to BDSM
Guest Post By: Spices of Lust Your BDSM experience is personal to you — and your partners. It’s meant to be whatever you make of it, and...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Mar 2, 2018
- 2 min
Free the Pussy, Free the World
I have spent nearly 30 years working in political activism. My graduate work in political psychology focused on identity, education and...
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