Security Protocols: How Adding Protocols to Your Relationship May Reduce Anxiety
Anxiety is a common mental health issue. Protocols in a relationship can help reduce and manage it.
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Rebecca Blanton
- Feb 7
- 4 min
Negotiating Flexibility Into Your Dynamic
So often newer kinky folks hold up the 24/7 dynamic as the "pinnacle" of kinky relationships. The fantasy of this dynamic is that it...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Dec 19, 2022
- 4 min
Find a New Kink for 2023
As we close one calendar year and move into the next, many of us take time to evaluate and make goals or wishes for the coming year. If...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 3, 2022
- 7 min
Grooming as BDSM and D/s
Most of BDSM and kink skills focus on techniques for different types of play (e.g., flogging, spanking). However, the world of BDSM is...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Sep 7, 2022
- 5 min
Undoing Religious Damage with BDSM
How to start addressing trauma and damage from a sex-negative upbringing.
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Rebecca Blanton
- Aug 19, 2022
- 5 min
Is Your Kink Practice Missing Something Critical?
If you have been listening to Fat Chicks on Top, you know I’ve been talking to a variety of kinky folks who entered the scene over 20...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jul 26, 2022
- 6 min
This Could Save Your Life!
Kink play can be intense! That is part of the fun of it. We play physically and psychologically hard. Weather you are into impact play,...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jul 24, 2022
- 2 min
Sexual Fantasy Research
Sponsored Post We don’t tend to talk about sexual fantasies with many people. Too many of us carry shame around the things we know turn...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jul 11, 2022
- 5 min
Things Are Terrifying! How Do I Keep Going?
I was lucky enough to get to interview Mir Green from Wicked Grounds today and it helped me refine a few thoughts I have been playing...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 10, 2022
- 4 min
Unfuck Yourself for Pride
Being part of the LGBTQ+ community means growning up in societies where we are not supported or embraced by the majority. If we are lucky...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 25, 2022
- 2 min
A Sexy Bucket List: How many have you done?
I am a fan of sexual and intimacy goal setting. It is a way to prioritize your pleasure and not let it languish as life happens. It also...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 8, 2022
- 1 min
Shay Tizano: Bound Up in Joy
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-amw4e-121fc8c Guest: Shay Tizano, Rope expert, Erotic Performer Author of Tying and Flying and...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 3, 2022
- 4 min
Kink-Life Balance: Is 24/7 Really for You?
In the world of BDMS, power exchange, and kinky shenanigans, people who identify as having a 24/7 dynamic are often seen as the “ideal”...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Apr 22, 2022
- 4 min
7 Ways to Expand Your Dynamic
BDSM and power exchange is often portrayed as something which exists as something in the bedroom. Yes, a large part of people’s dynamics...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Mar 28, 2022
- 4 min
The #1 Thing Dom(me)s Hate!
I work with a lot of kinky folks of all identities and levels of experience. When I talk to folks from the left side of the slash, they...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Mar 15, 2022
- 3 min
Should Submissives Express THEIR Needs?
When you are submissive or enjoy being submissive with a partner, navigating your own desires can be tricky. As submissives, we sometime...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Feb 21, 2022
- 2 min
One Question Every Submissive Needs to Answer
When I am on my knees, looking up at my Dom, waiting on his command, I am in complete bliss. There is something wonderful and liberating...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Feb 5, 2022
- 6 min
Head Space 101
If you have spent any time on kink blogs, podcasts, or in a class, you have heard people mention “head space.” Head space refers to the...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jan 24, 2022
- 4 min
How To Communicate When You Hate Long Talks
Communication is key. You have heard it hundreds, if not thousands of time when it comes to creating successful relationships and...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jan 17, 2022
- 1 min
Fetlife How-To’s
Thought about joining Fetlife.com but have some concerns? Worried that your employer or ex-spouse will find your account and out you?...
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