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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog about submission, kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 3, 20245 min read
Your Story is a Revolution
The one thing I know for sure, after years of teaching and lobbying legislatures, is that facts don’t move opinions. Stories do. It is...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 6, 20247 min read
A Community Survivial Guide
Practical guide to surviving 2025 and beyone
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 28, 20244 min read
Empath? Maybe. Trauma-Survivor? Probably.
Are you an empath or is it just unaddressed trauma?
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 22, 20243 min read
I Can’t Ask For That! What to do when you are embarrassed about what you want in bed
If you are a frequent reader of sex advice columns, you will quickly come to notice the number of letters which begin “I am so...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 9, 20234 min read
Finding Out What You Really Want from Intimacy
Sex education is all sorts for messed up! The best we offer kids is showing them how to put a condom on a banana. To quote Dr. Sprankle:...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 6, 20234 min read
Asking for It
I've seen an increasing number of studies demonstrating that female (researchers only asked cis women) desire declines in long term...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 28, 20233 min read
Deeper and Deeper....
The physical activities of kink - spanking, tying up people, blindfolds- are what most folks think this lifestyle is all about. Putting...
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Rebecca Blanton
Feb 7, 20234 min read
Negotiating Flexibility Into Your Dynamic
So often newer kinky folks hold up the 24/7 dynamic as the "pinnacle" of kinky relationships. The fantasy of this dynamic is that it...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 9, 20233 min read
Resolutions and Practices of Happy Couples
Sponsored by LoveHoney With the New Year just around the corner, many of us will be working on our resolutions for 2023. But in the midst...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 19, 20225 min read
Is Your Kink Practice Missing Something Critical?
If you have been listening to Fat Chicks on Top, you know I’ve been talking to a variety of kinky folks who entered the scene over 20...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 29, 20224 min read
Why is sexting with strangers only possible on a secure chat site?
SPONSORED POST from AROUSR Chatting with strangers isn’t really something that you have to go out of your way to find. There are lots of...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 25, 20222 min read
A Sexy Bucket List: How many have you done?
I am a fan of sexual and intimacy goal setting. It is a way to prioritize your pleasure and not let it languish as life happens. It also...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 22, 20224 min read
7 Ways to Expand Your Dynamic
BDSM and power exchange is often portrayed as something which exists as something in the bedroom. Yes, a large part of people’s dynamics...
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Rebecca Blanton
Feb 5, 20226 min read
Head Space 101
If you have spent any time on kink blogs, podcasts, or in a class, you have heard people mention “head space.” Head space refers to the...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 24, 20224 min read
How To Communicate When You Hate Long Talks
Communication is key. You have heard it hundreds, if not thousands of time when it comes to creating successful relationships and...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 17, 20221 min read
Fetlife How-To’s
Thought about joining Fetlife.com but have some concerns? Worried that your employer or ex-spouse will find your account and out you?...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 12, 20224 min read
Dating in an On-going Pandemic
Being single, or at least being in a position to date, during the pandemic is challenging. We all crave human touch and interaction. We...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 1, 20213 min read
Home For the Holidays? Ways to stay kinky while visiting relatives
Nothing puts a damper of getting down and dirty as visiting the parents for the holidays! With mom, dad, the kids, grandparents, or other...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 15, 20213 min read
An Introduction to Body Affirming Kink Play
Feeling bad about your body is common. Regardless of your actual weight, height, ability, shape, gender, or age, anyone can feel bad...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 22, 20217 min read
7 Tips for Hosting an Orgy
As more of us get vaccinated and back out there, so many of y’all are posting about having a slutty summer. Yay! I strongly encourage...
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