Negotiating Flexibility Into Your Dynamic
So often newer kinky folks hold up the 24/7 dynamic as the "pinnacle" of kinky relationships. The fantasy of this dynamic is that it...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 3, 2022
- 7 min
Grooming as BDSM and D/s
Most of BDSM and kink skills focus on techniques for different types of play (e.g., flogging, spanking). However, the world of BDSM is...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 3, 2022
- 4 min
Kink-Life Balance: Is 24/7 Really for You?
In the world of BDMS, power exchange, and kinky shenanigans, people who identify as having a 24/7 dynamic are often seen as the “ideal”...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Apr 22, 2022
- 4 min
7 Ways to Expand Your Dynamic
BDSM and power exchange is often portrayed as something which exists as something in the bedroom. Yes, a large part of people’s dynamics...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 1, 2021
- 3 min
Home For the Holidays? Ways to stay kinky while visiting relatives
Nothing puts a damper of getting down and dirty as visiting the parents for the holidays! With mom, dad, the kids, grandparents, or other...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Sep 20, 2021
- 3 min
What Can You Do If You Disagree with Your Dominant?
One of the most difficult issues of being a submissive or other s-type is having a disagreement with your dominant. Power exchange...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Aug 15, 2021
- 3 min
An Introduction to Body Affirming Kink Play
Feeling bad about your body is common. Regardless of your actual weight, height, ability, shape, gender, or age, anyone can feel bad...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jul 16, 2021
- 7 min
How Do You Create an Aftercare Plan?
Aftercare is a frequently mentioned idea in kink/BDSM classes and touted as “important” for safe, sane, and consensual play. Most of the...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jan 22, 2021
- 3 min
Expanding Your Kink
January 2021 brings both the desire to set goals for the new year and marks ten months in various stages of lockdown for most of us. Many...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Dec 8, 2020
- 9 min
Subordinate Clause
Happy Holidays! Here is a little kinky holiday porn for y’all. CW: Impact play, body fluids Elise sat by the fire on the early morning of...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Oct 15, 2020
- 4 min
Anticipatory Service
Many of us identify as “service submissives.” We enjoy serving others (at least we enjoy serving a D-type). Some of us (including me)...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 25, 2020
- 3 min
BDSM Resources (updated 01.09.22)
I’ve been asked by several folx to provide a set of good readings on D/s dynamics. While this is far from a complete list, here is a good...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 4, 2020
- 3 min
Submission and Control
A vast percentage of posts about submission and control (including mine) are about the relationship between a submissive and their...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Feb 19, 2020
- 6 min
5 Ways BDSM Will Improve Your Life
Most people think BDSM is just about the sex. It is often reduced to sexual and sexualized acts, especially in mainstream media...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Sep 14, 2019
- 5 min
Pain. The Good, The Bad, the Fun!
There is the myth that the Inuit have some amazing number of words for snow. They don’t- but we have all heard the myth. The concept is...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 29, 2019
- 6 min
Flip It and Reverse It: Protocols for Dominants
I adore having protocols in a relationship. Those rules and rituals power exchange couples create to serve their relationship provide a...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 16, 2019
- 5 min
Shy? Here is how to open up
Shyness is something I have had a problem with personally. However, I have had several partners who are deeply reticent to talk about...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Apr 13, 2019
- 8 min
New Boobs (short erotic story)
A short sci-fi, nonbinary erotica for your enjoyment! New Boobs Mica set the large, black box xe was carrying on the library table by the...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Apr 2, 2019
- 5 min
“We Need to Talk”: Ambiguity in Relationships
“We need to talk.” Its the sentence many of us live in fear of hearing from our partners. When we get a text or a message or a partner...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jan 4, 2019
- 7 min
Loving the Consistently Inconsistent Partner
Dear Readers, I’m back after a long time off. Unfortunately my health battles continue and there is no help from the medical community....
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