There is a new call to add a K for “kink” to the LGBTQ+ acronym. This call for more inclusion has highlighted a couple of issues in both the queer and kink communities. To be clear, I am against adding kink to the LGBTQ acronym and by extension, the groups which work on behalf of us queers for political rights. Failure to Know Our History The call is promoted by folks who believe the LGBTQ+ community should be inclusive of all groups with any form of alternative sexuality or

It is Pride month. This year is particularly politically charged. There are fights about adding black and brown stripes to the Pride flag. There are articles on how to be an ally to queer and trans folks. There are fights about how to incorporate trans folks more visibly and inclusively into Pride. There are lots of articles this year about recognizing bi folks as part of the community. I don’t know about you, but I am exhausted. Amidst all the talk of intersectionality, alli

I love the BDSM community. I love kink. It is integral to who I am and how I see the world. I love the aesthetic, the values, and the people who live BDSM. But I struggle with parts of of the practice and language of kink. I have been struggling for a long time on resolving the M/s dynamic in kink, the language around this, and some kink play and my desire to be open and accepting and loving for all races in the community. When I initially got into BDSM, i didn’t think too mu