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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog about submission, kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 29, 20214 min read
7 Tips to Help You Screen For Abusers on Kink Sites
In a most predictable move, once BDSM became a topic most American’s had heard about, abusers co-opted its language to justify their...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 11, 20213 min read
Is BDSM Inescapably Racist:4 years later
Four years ago I posted about the difficulty of navigating BDSM and racism. The language we use (Master/slave) and many of our practices...
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 13, 20164 min read
Pronoun Wars
The presence of non-binary gendered folks is becoming more known. Some groups in the kink and queer worlds are starting to recognize that...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 22, 20164 min read
So, What is Sex-Positive & Why Do I Care?
Sex positive has become a new catchphrase in the professional word of sex educators and writers and body-positive movement folks. I am...
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Rebecca Blanton
Feb 26, 20165 min read
Loving Pink and Being a Girl
I have been called out on this blog several times for referring to myself as a “girl.” There are people out there, mostly women, who hate...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 19, 20155 min read
Loving Black Men
The timing of this post is prompted by a discussion currently occurring on Fetlife (major social network site for the kink community). A...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 13, 20154 min read
The Flavor of “Sir”
I experience language differently than a lot of people. Words have sound and meaning, and I can see them written on a page as other do,...
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