Safe words are one of the most referenced kink ideas. The concept of a simple word which stops all action and indicates someone is not okay has moved from the kink world into the wider world. This is a good thing, in general. But do you always need one? What purpose do they really serve? How do you need to use one? What Are Safe Word A safe word is a word people establish before kink play which, when used, will stop all action. Safe words are a standard feature of BDSM play b

So you want to try switching things up. Great! There are a lot of benefits to switching power positions (e.g., a submissive trying topping). You will learn a lot about your own desires and your own internalized perceptions of the side of the slash you occupy. You may also gain a deeper appreciation for the side of the slash you normally do not occupy. There are a few things to keep in mind if you try switching. 1. Your version of bottoming may not be the same at the person yo

A couple of months ago I was performing with Bawdy Storytelling and had the great pleasure of hearing Race Bannon tell a story about the first time he bottomed. Bannon is a well-known Master in the kink community and has been for years. He didn’t bottom. One night he tried it and his story is about how eye-opening that experience was. This was followed by phone calls from two female friends both excited to tell me about how they recently fell into a dominant role in a relatio