One of my favorite old BritComs is Coupling (sort of the British Friends). In one of the episodes the highly sexed Patrick announces that he is going to dump his girlfriend of the moment because she is too naive. She ruled out a threesome at the first mention of one! Patrick insists that threesomes don’t really happen, they are just a fantasy that a woman must prolong up until the point she has a baby. So, okay, looking beyond the misogynism and stereotypes here, the show doe

Again today, as with so many days, I came upon a thread of women bitching about “no good men left.” As with so many of these threads on social media, relationship advice columns, and just general bitch-fests, there is a default consensus that there are no “good” men/women left to date and the people complaining are the only “decent” person in the world left to date. Okay… so that is boring AF. But, I decided to meditate on the issue a bit here since I have had this conversati

First, let me make clear that the way I am using “unicorn” here is as people do in the polyamory community: a bisexual woman seeking a relationship with a heterosexual couple. I am a member of a number of poly boards. Lately, there has been a lot of discussion about “unicorn hunters.” This topic has come up in relationship to people posting ads for their “unicorn,” questions about how to find a “unicorn” and defining “unicorns.” It is common for hetero couples to seek out a w