Basic Resources for Submissives
Updated: Aug 22, 2022
This is the beginning of a list of vetted BDSM and kink resources. This list is intended for educational purposes, not erotica or romance. Please feel free to message me with suggestions. Additions should be sites, podcasts or books you have used for educational purposes. You should have fully vetted the resource and it needs to be something you would recommend to a friend interested in BDSM and kink. This is not a listing of events, munches, hook-up or dating sites, erotica, porn or sales.
List of BDSM Resources
BDSM Writers Con – Convention for kink and bdsm writers
Dykes on Bikes – social group, lesbian, leather
The Maso-cast – podcast from a submissive’s point of view
Keeping it Kinky – Safety and BDSM website
Polyamory Weekly – podcast
Red Stops Rape – campaign for national safe word
Sex Nerd Sandra – writer, sex educator, blogger
Sexual Dark Age – Blog, podcast
Society of Janus – education, outreach, social group
Submissive’s Guide – education, porn, sex toys
Submissive’s Initiative – Facebook group, education, outreach
Tristan Taormino – sex educator, author
Blanton, Rebecca. Love Letters to a Unicorn: A book about kink, bdsm and non-monogamy.
Brame, Gloria. Different Loving: A complete exploration of the world of dominance and submission.
Califia, Pat. Public Sex: The Culture of Radical Sex.
Easton, Dossie. The New Bottoming Book.
Hardy, Janet. The New Topping Book.
Harrington, Lee. Playing Well with Others: Your field guide to discovering, exploring, and navigating the kink, leather, and bdsm communities.
Miller, Phillip. Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The romance and sorcery of sadomasochism.
Taormino, Tristan. Opening Up: A guide to creating and sustaining open relationships.
Thompson, Mark. Leatherfolk: Radical Sex, People, Politics and Practice.
Veaux, Franklin and Eve Ricket. More Than Two: A practical guide to ethical polyamory.
Wiseman, Jay. SM 101: A Realistic Introduction.