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Basic Resources for Submissives

Updated: Aug 22, 2022

This is the beginning of a list of vetted BDSM and kink resources. This list is intended for educational purposes, not erotica or romance. Please feel free to message me with suggestions. Additions should be sites, podcasts or books you have used for educational purposes. You should have fully vetted the resource and it needs to be something you would recommend to a friend interested in BDSM and kink. This is not a listing of events, munches, hook-up or dating sites, erotica, porn or sales.

List of BDSM Resources

BDSM Writers Con – Convention for kink and bdsm writers

Dykes on Bikes – social group, lesbian, leather

The Maso-cast – podcast from a submissive’s point of view

Keeping it Kinky – Safety and BDSM website

Polyamory Weekly – podcast

Red Stops Rape – campaign for national safe word

Sex Nerd Sandra – writer, sex educator, blogger

Sexual Dark Age – Blog, podcast

Society of Janus – education, outreach, social group

Submissive’s Guide – education, porn, sex toys

Submissive’s Initiative – Facebook group, education, outreach

Tristan Taormino – sex educator, author

Book List

Blanton, Rebecca. Love Letters to a Unicorn: A book about kink, bdsm and non-monogamy.

Brame, Gloria. Different Loving: A complete exploration of the world of dominance and submission.

Califia, Pat. Public Sex: The Culture of Radical Sex.

Easton, Dossie. The New Bottoming Book.

Hardy, Janet. The New Topping Book.

Harrington, Lee. Playing Well with Others: Your field guide to discovering, exploring, and navigating the kink, leather, and bdsm communities.

Miller, Phillip. Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The romance and sorcery of sadomasochism.

Taormino, Tristan. Opening Up: A guide to creating and sustaining open relationships.

Thompson, Mark. Leatherfolk: Radical Sex, People, Politics and Practice.

Veaux, Franklin and Eve Ricket. More Than Two: A practical guide to ethical polyamory.

Wiseman, Jay. SM 101: A Realistic Introduction.

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