Submission and Control
A vast percentage of posts about submission and control (including mine) are about the relationship between a submissive and their...
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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog covering kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a submissive or bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
- Mar 26, 2020
- 1 min
Deepening Your Submission Resources
Howdy readers! I taught my “Deepening Your Submission” workshop last night through Wicked Grounds Annex. Participants asked that I put...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jan 14, 2020
- 7 min
10 Things EVERY Kinky Person Should Try
We all have our limits, be they soft or hard. Not everyone likes spanking. Not everyone enjoys rope. We are all loosely bound by our...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Dec 28, 2019
- 5 min
Introduction to Cock and Ball Bondage
Guest Post by Jett Oxy Perhaps you have always fantasized about binding balls, but not quite sure about your ability to pull it off?...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Oct 5, 2019
- 5 min
Pain and Presence
There are different theories on how people “should” deal with pain. Some folks argue for being present with the pain. Some argue for...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Sep 14, 2019
- 5 min
Pain. The Good, The Bad, the Fun!
There is the myth that the Inuit have some amazing number of words for snow. They don’t- but we have all heard the myth. The concept is...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 29, 2019
- 6 min
Flip It and Reverse It: Protocols for Dominants
I adore having protocols in a relationship. Those rules and rituals power exchange couples create to serve their relationship provide a...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 16, 2019
- 5 min
Shy? Here is how to open up
Shyness is something I have had a problem with personally. However, I have had several partners who are deeply reticent to talk about...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Mar 8, 2019
- 4 min
Submissives and Self Care
Being a service sub myself, much of my joy in life comes from caring for other people. I get an absurd level of joy from things like...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 6, 2018
- 6 min
Topping From the Bottom
I can’t believe I haven’t written a blog post on topping from the bottom! How could I be so remiss of addressing a topic which comes up...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Aug 21, 2018
- 9 min
Negotiation 101 for Subby Types
We talk a lot about negotiation in the kink scene. Negotiating what you will and will not do, what you want and what your partner(s) want...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 9, 2018
- 6 min
5 Skills for Fighting Fair in Kinky Relationships
Healthy couples fight. Most healthy couples don’t fight often, but disagreements do arise, emotions heighten and we fight. Its actually a...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 22, 2018
- 4 min
Identifying vs. Becoming
In the kinky world we use a lot of labels. Queer, kinky, top, bottom, Master, slave, Domme, submissive, baby girl, pet, Daddy, switch,...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jan 22, 2018
- 5 min
7 Tips for the New Switch
So you want to try switching things up. Great! There are a lot of benefits to switching power positions (e.g., a submissive trying...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jan 19, 2018
- 6 min
Switching It Up
A couple of months ago I was performing with Bawdy Storytelling and had the great pleasure of hearing Race Bannon tell a story about the...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Oct 23, 2017
- 7 min
The Submissive’s Body & Chronic Pain
The submissive’s body is a unique thing. Our body is ours, first and foremost. We have the right and the responsibility to keep it safe....
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 26, 2017
- 5 min
Sex and the Resistance
It is Pride month. This year is particularly politically charged. There are fights about adding black and brown stripes to the Pride...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Mar 8, 2017
- 3 min
In Praise of “Just a Phase”
We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jan 24, 2017
- 3 min
The Submissive Advantage
Submissives are some of the most seductive people in the world. Regardless of what we look like, if we are introverts or extroverts, or...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Dec 19, 2016
- 3 min
36 Questions You Should Ask Your Partner(s)
Immediacy is valued by many. We want what we want and we want it now! The whole concept of delayed gratification has become nearly...
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