So, you want to try fisting. Or you heard about it. Or you tried it and it didn’t quite work. Well, let me welcome you to the wonderful...

I’ve been asked by several folx to provide a set of good readings on D/s dynamics. While this is far from a complete list, here is a good...

A vast percentage of posts about submission and control (including mine) are about the relationship between a submissive and their...

Howdy readers! I taught my “Deepening Your Submission” workshop last night through Wicked Grounds Annex. Participants asked that I put...

We all have our limits, be they soft or hard. Not everyone likes spanking. Not everyone enjoys rope. We are all loosely bound by our...

Guest Post by Jett Oxy Perhaps you have always fantasized about binding balls, but not quite sure about your ability to pull it off?...

There are different theories on how people “should” deal with pain. Some folks argue for being present with the pain. Some argue for...

There is the myth that the Inuit have some amazing number of words for snow. They don’t- but we have all heard the myth. The concept is...

I adore having protocols in a relationship. Those rules and rituals power exchange couples create to serve their relationship provide a...

Shyness is something I have had a problem with personally. However, I have had several partners who are deeply reticent to talk about...

Being a service sub myself, much of my joy in life comes from caring for other people. I get an absurd level of joy from things like...

I can’t believe I haven’t written a blog post on topping from the bottom! How could I be so remiss of addressing a topic which comes up...

We talk a lot about negotiation in the kink scene. Negotiating what you will and will not do, what you want and what your partner(s) want...

Healthy couples fight. Most healthy couples don’t fight often, but disagreements do arise, emotions heighten and we fight. Its actually a...

In the kinky world we use a lot of labels. Queer, kinky, top, bottom, Master, slave, Domme, submissive, baby girl, pet, Daddy, switch,...

So you want to try switching things up. Great! There are a lot of benefits to switching power positions (e.g., a submissive trying...

A couple of months ago I was performing with Bawdy Storytelling and had the great pleasure of hearing Race Bannon tell a story about the...

The submissive’s body is a unique thing. Our body is ours, first and foremost. We have the right and the responsibility to keep it safe....

It is Pride month. This year is particularly politically charged. There are fights about adding black and brown stripes to the Pride...

We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...