For those of you unfamiliar with Fetlife, it is a social media site for kinky folks (kinky defined very broadly). Currently, there is a group of folks of undetermined size who are planning to temporarily deactivate their accounts at the end of April as a protest to some of the current policies and procedures on Fetlife. In the last couple of years as kink has become incredibly popular in the mass media the site has grown exponentially with folks looking to explore some part o

In Kentucky, Democrat Mary Lou Marzain has introduced House Bill 369. HB369 requires men to get their partner’s permission before receiving a Viagra script. Marzain claims that is somehow a radical anti-abortion statement. It is, in fact, just the opposite. HB369 is anti-sex, anti-consent, anti-feminist and we should stop touting this as something “progressive.” HB369 is rooted in the belief that the state and someone else has the right to regulate your body and consensual se

I get naked in public… a lot. I do burlesque and performance art with a number of groups and much of it involves taking my clothes off. Recently, I was a participant in an event called Strip Vocabulary. It was at a bar in Sacramento, CA and part of Drunk Poetry. Drunk Poetry is a monthly event at this bar. It brings in poets for rounds on on-the-spot poetry writing and geared at a fun night out. It has dirty haikus, limericks, poetic gangsta rap and other such activities. Thi

Must all porn oppress women? Can porn be freeing and uplifting for women? What the hell is “feminist porn?” I have written about feminism and porn before on this blog (see here). So, let’s start with the basis that 1) I do not think all porn is inherently abusive and sexist, and 2) porn can be uplifting to some women. But what does it mean to make “feminist porn?” This is a discussion taking place around the world and in a number of porn production companies. This week Vice p

I have been called out on this blog several times for referring to myself as a “girl.” There are people out there, mostly women, who hate the fact that I occasionally refer to myself as a “girl.” The feel the need to point out that “girl” is a way of infantalizing women and taking away their power. Its true. Some people, especially in the corporate workplace, use “girl” to diminish a woman’s power. And yes, as some of you have pointed out, men are rarely referred to as “boys”