The recent election of the racist cheeto has many folks in the kink community reeling. We are hurt and horrified by the hate harbored in...

I know you are dancing and drinking and celebrating what you see is your candidate winning. I know you don’t get why most Americans (and...

I love the BDSM community. I love kink. It is integral to who I am and how I see the world. I love the aesthetic, the values, and the...

One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...

At some point in the last decade culture in the United States started demanding that people be certain about everything. We collectively...

Talking about “triggers” and starting posts and group discussions with “trigger warnings” is now de riguer in the kink community. It has...

What is portrayed in the popular media makes a big difference. Not a profound statement,  but most people- even those who agree- often...

When I woke to news of the mass murders in Orlando last month I was devastated. The pain was visceral. I cried for days. Dozens of my...

First, let me get a few things in the open (if you are not already familiar). One, I like sex. I like it a lot and believe it should be...

Consent is one of these topics that comes up all the time in the kink community. It will come up in the wider world after a horrific rape...

Its June, which means its Gay Pride Month (or LGBT Pride, or LGBTQAAI Month, or whatever). Most cities, large and small, have some...

I have had to come out about things a few times in my life. I’m queer. I’m bipolar. I am kinky. None of these things are obvious at first...

Its the most common question I see of new kinksters, “Am I doing this right?” It comes in several versions, “I think I am a Domme, but I...

Dear Doms and Dommes: Thank you. Thank you for enjoying your role on the left of the slash. Without you, my life would not be nearly as...

Okay, I get that most people not in the kink community believe that kink and BDSM only refer to sex. I get that kink and BDSM are very...