At some point in the last decade culture in the United States started demanding that people be certain about everything. We collectively...

Vice.com just put out an article about people seeking to qualify polyamory as a sexual orientation. It’s not, but don’t stop reading....

When I woke to news of the mass murders in Orlando last month I was devastated. The pain was visceral. I cried for days. Dozens of my...

I have been overwhelmed by the number of stories in the past few weeks about the horrors brought about by men who did not feel like they...

The first time I was really made aware of the fact that I was a “girl” was in first grade. Until this point, I had remained blissfully...

I have had to come out about things a few times in my life. I’m queer. I’m bipolar. I am kinky. None of these things are obvious at first...

I spend a lot of time talking to people and reading social media boards by both polyamorous and monogamous folks. Universally, people are...

I debated a lot before I decided to post this blog entry. I have been active in the LGBTQ movement for thirty years now. I know the...

Its the most common question I see of new kinksters, “Am I doing this right?” It comes in several versions, “I think I am a Domme, but I...

Recently I have seen a lot of memes and other social media that is similar to the above posting. They all have examples of parents...

There is a local comedian in Sacramento who does a great joke. She starts with the premise that her parents used to spank her. Now, she...

I love Halloween. Its basically the primary gay holiday in the U.S. I love dressing up, going out, having a ton of fun, and finishing the...

I have written here about being agendered. I am working on an extended piece for my next book. In doing that, I have been speaking with...

You Got To Be Real – Cheryl Lynn (1978) There are few things in English I hate more than the insistence of modifying a social construct...

We are all born naked. Everything else is drag. ~RuPaul I want to take a concept from sexual orientation and evolve it to relate to...