The other night I was at a poetry open mic billed as a “safe space” for the LGBTQAII community. As per the norm in such spaces, the host...

It is Pride month. This year is particularly politically charged. There are fights about adding black and brown stripes to the Pride...

Everyone fucks up. It is the result of being human beings. Pride this year has presented one million more ways for us to screw up and...

Kink, in many forms, is now more popular and more visible than ever. I knew we had gone mainstream when American Dad, Family Guy and...

A friend of mine, an immigrant from Eastern Europe, just became an American citizen. Upon receiving her passport, she posted on Facebook...

Let’s talk about the idea of “religious freedom” and why it is absolutely imperative for all of us to be as queer and kinky as possible....

Lately I feel like I am watching one of those suspense or horror films where the protagonist makes a mistake in the beginning (e.g.,...

Hey my kinky peeps! I love you. I do. But, as a community, we have got some work to do. We are not inclusive as we should be. We are...

I am sick about the news from Orlando this morning. I am sick of living in a country that allows churches and mosques and temples to...

I was working on my next blog post about measures around sex and research findings and planned on posting it today, then the American...

I write a lot about interracial dating and am open that I tend to date Black men. I want to address the personal ads and online dating...

This year marks 30 years of activism for me. In 1986 I started my first volunteer gig with and HIV/AIDS outreach and support organization...

I am a feminist. I am a submissive. This is my choice. There is no conflict between the two for me. However, my submission is not an act...