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Halloween
I love Halloween. Its basically the primary gay holiday in the U.S. I love dressing up, going out, having a ton of fun, and finishing the...
Rebecca Blanton
Oct 20, 20154 min read
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Its Not All About Sex
Okay, I get that most people not in the kink community believe that kink and BDSM only refer to sex. I get that kink and BDSM are very...
Rebecca Blanton
Oct 17, 20153 min read
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Fantasy Versus Reality
Copyright Eddy-Shinjuku. All rights reserved. I have the great pleasure of talking to lots of people about their fantasies. Some of this...
Rebecca Blanton
Oct 15, 20158 min read
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10,000 hours
Lots of people claim to be an expert in kink and BDSM. I bring this up because recently a couple of people referred to me as an “expert.”...
Rebecca Blanton
Sep 27, 20154 min read
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Chasing the O
Being part of the kink and BDSM community provides an alternative conception of what is a good sexual encounter.In the vanilla-ish...
Rebecca Blanton
Aug 24, 20154 min read
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We Need to Talk
We, as a society, need to talk a lot more about variants on sexuality and relationship styles. For a long time I have maintained that the...
Rebecca Blanton
Aug 20, 20158 min read
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Kink Visibility
I have been asked several times in the past few months about what I think about the growing visibility of kink. With the massive...
Rebecca Blanton
Aug 3, 20158 min read
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How to NOT Interview a Kinkster:Real Answers to Lazy Vanilla Reporter Quesions
Now that I have been doing interviews with mainstream media folks about kink and non-monogamy, I am learning there are some pretty...
Rebecca Blanton
Jul 22, 20154 min read
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Loving Black Men
The timing of this post is prompted by a discussion currently occurring on Fetlife (major social network site for the kink community). A...
Rebecca Blanton
Jul 19, 20155 min read
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10 Things for Newbies to Think About
I was lucky when it came to discovering kink. There was almost no separation between my first kiss and my awareness of the kink...
Rebecca Blanton
Jul 16, 20159 min read
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Loving a Sub with Mental Illness
I live with Bipolar I. I have since I was about 11, diagnosed at 20. It is fundamental to who I am and I have never not thought about it...
Rebecca Blanton
Jul 15, 20156 min read
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The Flavor of “Sir”
I experience language differently than a lot of people. Words have sound and meaning, and I can see them written on a page as other do,...
Rebecca Blanton
Jul 13, 20154 min read
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On Bondage
The more I talk to people about the kink and BDSM world, the more I realize how many people do not see this world the way I do. For some...
Rebecca Blanton
Jul 10, 20156 min read
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Feminism, Bad Feminism, Choice, and Submission
I am a feminist. I am a submissive. This is my choice. There is no conflict between the two for me. However, my submission is not an act...
Rebecca Blanton
May 16, 20157 min read
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Myths About Submission
I want to talk about perceptions versus reality of submission. There are a lot of misconceptions for both vanilla folks and newbie...
Rebecca Blanton
Apr 29, 20157 min read
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New to Kink? Curios about BDSM? Start here
This is an open letter to anyone who has recently discovered that there is a kinky world out there and they now think they want to...
Rebecca Blanton
Feb 22, 20158 min read
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Why the Anti-Porn Folks are Wrong About 50 Shade
There are several avidly anti-porn groups that are doing huge social media pushes asking people to boycott 50 Shades of Grey. The general...
Rebecca Blanton
Feb 11, 20154 min read
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