https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-8ug3c-1289382 Guest: Mistress Schari, professional Dominatrix Mistress Shari has gone from stripping her way through graduate school to working as a pro-Domme in the New York area. She has worked as a pro Domme for nearly two decades. Schari joins Fat Chicks to talk about finding her passion as a pro Domme, why she does this work, and what she has learned from years in the field. She chats about working with other women, aging, and lovin

Twitter has decided they want to wipe out bisexuality. Over the past week, Twitter has hidden any photos with the hashtag “bisexual.” The official reason for this is that they are trying to reduce spam and unwanted porn. But in actuality, Twitter is trying to silence bi folks. You are probably aware that bisexuality is an “thing.” You may even know a bisexual or two. Here are a few things us bi folks haven’t talked about much, especially with non-bi folks 1.  We are tired of

I pass as a heterosexual cis-female and I hate that. I have always passed (well, more or less) regardless of what I wear, my hair, binders, softees, make-up on and off… I pass. Sure, there have been periods of time when I have worked really hard to not pass and yes, I get mistaken for a man a lot. But by and large people see me and think I’m just another heterosexual cis-female. The older I get, the more I pass. I put on weight in my 30s and strapping down DDs is a lot tricki

Everyone fucks up. It is the result of being human beings. Pride this year has presented one million more ways for us to screw up and make people mad. We have mined our own fields. So, lets talk about that. What Was Pride? Pride was originally created as a protest to being forced to hide who we are. For generations, we hid in closets and never let people in the general public know we were gay. There was good reason for this: we could (and still can) lose jobs, our physical sa

It’s Pride month again. This is the second year pride comes when I have a male partner and we are exclusive. This makes pride events strained, at best, for me. Biphobia still permeates the queer community. I am treated like an interloper by queer folks who don’t know me. They assume I am some cis- hetero- interloper coming to watch “their” event. Part of the problem is gay spaces have been invaded by hetero- folks. Few gay clubs have not been taken over by a drunk bachelorett

I have never chosen a partner to make a political point. However, I live in a country where my body and my sexuality are constantly under attack by the government. So, even though my attraction and connection with someone is not driven by my politics, who I love is inherently political. I have been thinking a lot about the intersection of my love life with my political life lately. With the threat to women, LGBTQ folks, POC and others by the incoming administration, I feel a

First, let me make clear that the way I am using “unicorn” here is as people do in the polyamory community: a bisexual woman seeking a relationship with a heterosexual couple. I am a member of a number of poly boards. Lately, there has been a lot of discussion about “unicorn hunters.” This topic has come up in relationship to people posting ads for their “unicorn,” questions about how to find a “unicorn” and defining “unicorns.” It is common for hetero couples to seek out a w