Guest Post By Peter Minkoff As we age, many things will unavoidably change – for the better of the worse. But you know what? Even though experiencing huge changes can be extremely intimidating and challenging, it doesn’t mean that turning a certain age is the end of your life. Just stay with us and find out how your body and sex appeal will change as you age. Keep on reading and learn something new today! Low sex drive is a reality for many ladies and gentlemen Low sex drive

Guest Author: Joie de Vivre Joie de Vivre is a the co-producer of Peepshow in San Francisco and a burlesque performer. She regularly performs with the Hubba Hubba review and other troupes. I have been a huge admirer of hers for some time. She graciously agreed to be a guest blogger about being beautiful ugly. You can find Joie at on Facebook. Not everyone gets to be beautiful, and I’m one of them. That isn’t self-hatred, it’s statistics — a few of us are beautiful, a few of u

I am a fat girl. I have been for a long time. I don’t mince words or try and elide the fact that I am fat. I am okay with it. Most people are not. Most of my friends are fit to very fit. Its partly living in Northern California. Its partly hanging out with burlesque and roller derby girls and rock climbing guys. I can keep up with some, but not all during hiking, running and the like. I wear a bikini in public. I get naked on stage. I sunbathe naked. I love all of this. I gen

Kink, in many forms, is now more popular and more visible than ever. I knew we had gone mainstream when American Dad, Family Guy and even Raising Hope had kink references in the shows that aired during Prime Time without additional warnings. Pretty much every mainstream magazine has covered BDSM and kink: Playboy, Glamour, Cosmo, Vogue, GQ, and now even Redbook. Is this a good thing? I am not so sure the mainstreaming of kink is a good thing. Part of this is being part of the

I had the great honor this weekend to chair a panel at CatalystCon in Los Angeles. I presented a panel with Joie de Vivre and Diana Hong about claiming female sexuality through performance. It was an absolutely fascinating discussion for me. One of the questions I asked my panelist is how they felt about their bodies when they saw themselves on film. I expected Joie to express some dysphoria or dissatisfaction with the film images of her. The disconnect with one’s body is a c

I have written here about being agendered. I am working on an extended piece for my next book. In doing that, I have been speaking with others to help develop the ideas around the concept of agendered. One question several trans friends have asked is about body dismorphia. For many trans folks, they express the feeling that they were “born in the wrong body.” They undergo various treatments and procedures to try and make their external bodies match with how they feel they sho

I like porn. I struggle with that fact at times. I know the industry can be very exploitative and that the body images featured in porn contribute to the narrow concept of beauty. I know not everyone in porn is there of their own free will with the full desire to participate. Still, I enjoy it. I recently began two projects of my own involving visual porn (I write porn, but that is not what I am addressing here). One was my film for the HUMP Festival competition (see it here)