I love it when I come across people writing about submission in a deep and thoughtful way! If you have not discovered The Pleasure Coach,...

With the 2020 election just days from now, I have spent an enormous amount of time thinking about power: structural power, institutional...

A vast percentage of posts about submission and control (including mine) are about the relationship between a submissive and their...

Most people think BDSM is just about the sex. It is often reduced to sexual and sexualized acts, especially in mainstream media...

For those of you unfamiliar with Fetlife, it is a social media site for kinky folks (kinky defined very broadly). Currently, there is a...

I have spent nearly 30 years working in political activism. My graduate work in political psychology focused on identity, education and...

Let’s talk about the idea of “religious freedom” and why it is absolutely imperative for all of us to be as queer and kinky as possible....

This morning Trump released a barrage of tweets speculating that former beauty queen Machado had made a sex tape. Of course, as with most...

I get naked in public… a lot. I do burlesque and performance art with a number of groups and much of it involves taking my clothes off....

I have had to come out about things a few times in my life. I’m queer. I’m bipolar. I am kinky. None of these things are obvious at first...

“Submission is a gift.” I hear that phrase constantly in the kink community. I hear submissives say it. I hear Dom(me)s say it. Switches...