Imani Barbarin I had a wonderful conversation with disabilities activist Imani Barbarin. You can hear our conversation here or the...

Four years ago I posted about the difficulty of navigating BDSM and racism. The language we use (Master/slave) and many of our practices...

Happy Pride Month! This year Pride has been cancelled in most locations due to COVID-19 and celebrations are looking a bit different....

The other night I was at a poetry open mic billed as a “safe space” for the LGBTQAII community. As per the norm in such spaces, the host...

I have never chosen a partner to make a political point. However, I live in a country where my body and my sexuality are constantly under...

We are six days out from the shock of the cheeto’s election. Things are starting to clarify how various social justice groups are going...

I love the BDSM community. I love kink. It is integral to who I am and how I see the world. I love the aesthetic, the values, and the...

I write a lot about interracial dating and am open that I tend to date Black men. I want to address the personal ads and online dating...

This year marks 30 years of activism for me. In 1986 I started my first volunteer gig with and HIV/AIDS outreach and support organization...

The timing of this post is prompted by a discussion currently occurring on Fetlife (major social network site for the kink community). A...