So you want to try switching things up. Great! There are a lot of benefits to switching power positions (e.g., a submissive trying...

A couple of months ago I was performing with Bawdy Storytelling and had the great pleasure of hearing Race Bannon tell a story about the...

It’s great that vanilla America is finally discovering the idea of consent. Not our judges or politicians apparently, but a large number...

I have been thinking a lot about apologies lately. Nationally, men have been issuing varying forms of apologies for sexually harassing...

The submissive’s body is a unique thing. Our body is ours, first and foremost. We have the right and the responsibility to keep it safe....

We come out today because Cleve designed and Gilbert sewed; Alvin danced And RuPaul doesn’t always wear pants. Leslie got the Stone Butch...

The U.S. kink community, like the rest of the United States, is experiencing a growing divide between the “haves” and “have-nots.” As...

Interviewer @pridematters1 First of all could you tell our followers how you identify yourself? I identify as Queer. I am agender and...

I want to address the apparently growing trend of discovering and practicing kink without connecting to actual humans you are not having...

It is Pride month. This year is particularly politically charged. There are fights about adding black and brown stripes to the Pride...

Kink, in many forms, is now more popular and more visible than ever. I knew we had gone mainstream when American Dad, Family Guy and...

It is probably the most common thing I hear or see written about submission: The submissive is really the one in charge. The sub can stop...

Again today, as with so many days, I came upon a thread of women bitching about “no good men left.” As with so many of these threads on...

We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...

Let’s talk about the idea of “religious freedom” and why it is absolutely imperative for all of us to be as queer and kinky as possible....

I have written before in this blog about living with and engaging in power exchange relationships while living with a mental illness. I...

By most accounts, unless you are a rape-y cheeto with narcissistic personality disorder, this was a shit year. People are hoping 2017...

Immediacy is valued by many. We want what we want and we want it now! The whole concept of delayed gratification has become nearly...

Tips for identifying abuse with the BDSM community and power exchange relationship

Since Thanksgiving is this week in the United States, I am going to step out of the series of posts on community building and give thanks...