What is portrayed in the popular media makes a big difference. Not a profound statement,  but most people- even those who agree- often...

Sex positive has become a new catchphrase in the professional word of sex educators and writers and body-positive movement folks. I am...

First, let me get a few things in the open (if you are not already familiar). One, I like sex. I like it a lot and believe it should be...

There are subtle and not so subtle signs a relationship won’t work out. The primary one I have learned to look for over the years is...

I have had to come out about things a few times in my life. I’m queer. I’m bipolar. I am kinky. None of these things are obvious at first...

I debated a lot before I decided to post this blog entry. I have been active in the LGBTQ movement for thirty years now. I know the...

Simple answer… yes, yes it is. Regardless of what you do, it is weird to someone. One the the most shocking things I do or say is that I...

Its the most common question I see of new kinksters, “Am I doing this right?” It comes in several versions, “I think I am a Domme, but I...

8?  25?  105?   300? 1,023? Is there such a thing as having too many sexual partners? Are you a sex addict? Is sex your vice? Is sex a...

We need to talk to our kids about how to watch porn. I have had this conversation a lot since I put out my book last year. I think it is...

Recently I have seen a lot of memes and other social media that is similar to the above posting. They all have examples of parents...

Must all porn oppress women? Can porn be freeing and uplifting for women? What the hell is “feminist porn?” I have written about feminism...

I write a lot about interracial dating and am open that I tend to date Black men. I want to address the personal ads and online dating...

I have been called out on this blog several times for referring to myself as a “girl.” There are people out there, mostly women, who hate...

First, let me make clear that the way I am using “unicorn” here is as people do in the polyamory community: a bisexual woman seeking a...

This year marks 30 years of activism for me. In 1986 I started my first volunteer gig with and HIV/AIDS outreach and support organization...

One of the things I like most about the BDSM/kink community is the presence of rules and structure. These come in basic rules for...

I love Halloween. Its basically the primary gay holiday in the U.S. I love dressing up, going out, having a ton of fun, and finishing the...

In undergrad, I had a class that did a case study on Corinthian leather. In 1974, Chrysler launched a media campaign boasting about their...

I like porn. I struggle with that fact at times. I know the industry can be very exploitative and that the body images featured in porn...