We come out today because Cleve designed and Gilbert sewed; Alvin danced And RuPaul doesn’t always wear pants. Leslie got the Stone Butch...

It is Pride month. This year is particularly politically charged. There are fights about adding black and brown stripes to the Pride...

Everyone fucks up. It is the result of being human beings. Pride this year has presented one million more ways for us to screw up and...

Kink, in many forms, is now more popular and more visible than ever. I knew we had gone mainstream when American Dad, Family Guy and...

In The Princess Bride one character keeps using the term “inconceivable.” Every time he says something is inconceivable the thing...

The recent election of the racist cheeto has many folks in the kink community reeling. We are hurt and horrified by the hate harbored in...

Since America is voting today and will either get the first female president or its first/last dictator supreme, I figured I would post...

I love the BDSM community. I love kink. It is integral to who I am and how I see the world. I love the aesthetic, the values, and the...

I am sick about the news from Orlando this morning. I am sick of living in a country that allows churches and mosques and temples to...

Its June, which means its Gay Pride Month (or LGBT Pride, or LGBTQAAI Month, or whatever). Most cities, large and small, have some...

This year marks 30 years of activism for me. In 1986 I started my first volunteer gig with and HIV/AIDS outreach and support organization...

I stand on the shoulders of giants. Men and women and transfolks who came before me, fought the impossible fights, loved with great...

I have been asked several times in the past few months about what I think about the growing visibility of kink. With the massive...

The timing of this post is prompted by a discussion currently occurring on Fetlife (major social network site for the kink community). A...

I am a feminist. I am a submissive. This is my choice. There is no conflict between the two for me. However, my submission is not an act...