Grooming as BDSM and D/s
Most of BDSM and kink skills focus on techniques for different types of play (e.g., flogging, spanking). However, the world of BDSM is...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Mar 15, 2022
- 3 min
Should Submissives Express THEIR Needs?
When you are submissive or enjoy being submissive with a partner, navigating your own desires can be tricky. As submissives, we sometime...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Feb 21, 2022
- 2 min
One Question Every Submissive Needs to Answer
When I am on my knees, looking up at my Dom, waiting on his command, I am in complete bliss. There is something wonderful and liberating...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Feb 9, 2022
- 6 min
EARN IT Act: Using the pretense of child sexual exploitation to invade privacy
Ah, politicians are once again engaging in a favorite past-time: fanning fears of massive child predator rings as a pretense to get rid...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Sep 20, 2021
- 3 min
What Can You Do If You Disagree with Your Dominant?
One of the most difficult issues of being a submissive or other s-type is having a disagreement with your dominant. Power exchange...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Aug 18, 2021
- 4 min
BDSM Beyond the Bedroom
If you are new-ish to kink you may be under the impression that power exchange and kink are specifically for sex and intimate play time....
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 25, 2021
- 5 min
Do This BEFORE a Partner Cheats
Listen on Spotify Finding out your partner has cheated on you is often devastating. Regardless of your relationship style (monogamous,...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Apr 28, 2021
- 12 min
What Is a Submissive’s Responsibility?
I love it when I come across people writing about submission in a deep and thoughtful way! If you have not discovered The Pleasure Coach,...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Dec 3, 2020
- 3 min
New Year! Better, Kinkier YOU!
I am so excited to announce I will be working with Wicked Grounds to host “30 Days of Kinky Self-Discovery” in January 2021. So many...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Oct 31, 2020
- 5 min
Election 2020 and Erotic Power
With the 2020 election just days from now, I have spent an enormous amount of time thinking about power: structural power, institutional...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 18, 2019
- 3 min
Why Collars Are Important to BDSM
Guest Post By: Spices of Lust Your BDSM experience is personal to you — and your partners. It’s meant to be whatever you make of it, and...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 29, 2019
- 6 min
Flip It and Reverse It: Protocols for Dominants
I adore having protocols in a relationship. Those rules and rituals power exchange couples create to serve their relationship provide a...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 9, 2018
- 6 min
5 Skills for Fighting Fair in Kinky Relationships
Healthy couples fight. Most healthy couples don’t fight often, but disagreements do arise, emotions heighten and we fight. Its actually a...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Apr 25, 2018
- 8 min
Fetlife Protest Isn’t Just a “Feminist Thing”
For those of you unfamiliar with Fetlife, it is a social media site for kinky folks (kinky defined very broadly). Currently, there is a...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jul 5, 2017
- 4 min
Pronoun Wars, Part II
The other night I was at a poetry open mic billed as a “safe space” for the LGBTQAII community. As per the norm in such spaces, the host...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Sep 30, 2016
- 5 min
Why We Should Care About Sex Tapes
This morning Trump released a barrage of tweets speculating that former beauty queen Machado had made a sex tape. Of course, as with most...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Mar 1, 2016
- 5 min
Is Submission a Gift?
“Submission is a gift.” I hear that phrase constantly in the kink community. I hear submissives say it. I hear Dom(me)s say it. Switches...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jan 10, 2016
- 3 min
Body Confident? Hell no!
I have had a lot of conversations with people lately about body image and work. My public image and my work is largely based around sex...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jan 4, 2016
- 5 min
30th Anniversary
This year marks 30 years of activism for me. In 1986 I started my first volunteer gig with and HIV/AIDS outreach and support organization...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Dec 10, 2015
- 5 min
Is Sex Always Part of BDSM?
I have had a bunch of conversations lately about incorporating sex into BDSM play. Some people have to have both in a session, others do...
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