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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog covering kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a submissive or bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.

Rebecca Blanton

Jan 9, 2020
3 min

Embracing Sex Writing

I am an accidental sex/kink blogger. This site started five years ago as a book promotion site for a book I really didn’t think too many people would actually read. Y’all surprised me. Love Letters to a Unicorn is five years old and growing in its readership. Despite the growth of this blog and the publication of a second successful kink workbook I was reluctant to let go of my “academic” and “researcher” identities in favor of “sex/kink writer.” Part of the reluctance comes

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Rebecca Blanton

Dec 9, 2019
4 min

10 Things Every Bottom Should Know

Guest Post by Peter Minkoff (Homo Culture Magazine) *This article is written mostly for gay men but has great advice for anyone engaging in anal sex! Is there anything that a bottom doesn’t know? Well, technically, yes. Without generalization (but even if we do generalize just a little bit, you probably won’t get offended as we trust in your great sense of humor), bottom gay guys are the ones who are always extremely funny, they tend to know everything about all the feuds and

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I’m Tired. Can We Just Shut Up and Fuck?

Rebecca Blanton

Jul 2, 2019
6 min

I’m Tired. Can We Just Shut Up and Fuck?

I’m feeling old and crotchety after a month of Pride. Maybe its because I have been doing Pride for more than three decades and it is not as bright and shiny as it used to be. Maybe its because now that I am older and sicker, 30 days is a long time to do all things rainbow. Maybe its that I have had an unrelenting headache for nine months now. Whatever it is, I just want us all to shut up and fuck now. I am thrilled there are several new generations of queer activists up in a

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Rebecca Blanton

May 25, 2019
1 min

What a Drag!

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-4nqff-b26bb3 Episode 15: What a Drag! Host: Auntie Vice, Amy Estes Guests: Eartha Tremors (of the Windy City Imperial Court), Katori Knight (guest performer with the Rebel Kings), and Shahera Hyatt (comic) Drag is so much more than what we see on RuPaul’s Drag Race. Eartha Tremors of the Windy City Imperial Court joins Auntie Vice to chat about the Court’s history, purpose and drag more broadly. Katori Knight talks about performing as a

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Rebecca Blanton

Mar 25, 2019
1 min

Episode 12: Connections

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-in6zm-abed6f Co-Hosts: Auntie Vice and Erica Ambrin Guests: Koe Creation, Ali Yada Guest co-host Erica Ambrin talks to Auntie Vice about music, connecting to people through love, and drops an amazing acapella song. Koe Creation (author, educator) talks about their new memoir This Heart Holds Many which covers their childhood growing up in a polyamours, sex-positive family in the Pacific Northwest. Ali Yada (comic, bubbelologist) talks ab

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Bonus Episdoe! NonBinary People on NonBinary Identity

Rebecca Blanton

Mar 20, 2019
1 min

Bonus Episdoe! NonBinary People on NonBinary Identity

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-9dzt3-ab7954 Host: Auntie Vice Guests: Renair Amin and Koe Creation Auntie Vice identifies as agender and Renair Amin and Koe Creation identify as genderfluid. These terms are nebulous and not well understood by many people. Hear three nonbinary folks from very different backgrounds discuss what it means to be nonbinary and genderfluid. Share this: Tweet Email Print #culture #LGBTQ #nonbinary #Queer

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Rebecca Blanton

Feb 26, 2019
1 min

Episode 11: Sex Toys!

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-k2rgx-a92a11 Guests: Paul Imagine (adult toy store owner) and Lindsay Hoppe (sex toy reviewer) Auntie Vice and CharRon chat about their feelings about sex toys, being a couple where Auntie Vice embraces sex toys and CharRon is much more hesitant, and using sex toys as a couple. Paul Imagine talks about owning an adult toy store, how folks can get the most out of a visit to their local brick and mortar sex toy dealer, and how many people

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Bonus Clips! Alice in Bondageland and Bevin

Rebecca Blanton

Jan 9, 2019
1 min

Bonus Clips! Alice in Bondageland and Bevin

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-2jizs-a4090b Bonus Clips!! Our producer CharRon has put bonus material together from some of our most interesting guests. Alice in Bondageland talks pet play and why people would be into kink. Bevin (Fat Kids Dance Party) talks about the importance of self-care and how she goes about self-care with her incredibly demanding schedule. #kink #bdsm #podcast #petplay #relationships #selfcare #bodypositive #sexpositive #love #health #fat #wome

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Rebecca Blanton

Jun 2, 2018
4 min

Make Pride Queer Again

It’s June, Pride Month. I have been out for three decades and have spent most of that time as a queer rights advocate. I have very mixed feelings about Pride. Most Pride events have basically devolved into your average street fair with more rainbow crap. Replace rainbow flags with any other merchandise and these events would be no different than every other street fair in town all summer. That isn’t what Pride was meant to be. Pride was a demand for queer people to be safe to

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Rebecca Blanton

May 22, 2018
4 min

Identifying vs. Becoming

In the kinky world we use a lot of labels. Queer, kinky, top, bottom, Master, slave, Domme, submissive, baby girl, pet, Daddy, switch, demisexual, bisexual, heterosexual, homosexual, cis, trans, agender, nonbinary, it goes on. While labels have a purpose, they are also problematic. Labels are great in that they provide a shorthand for us to identify something about ourselves and connect with others using this shorthand. For example, if I am talking to another person who has t

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If You Don’t “Get” Non-Binary, Read This

Rebecca Blanton

Apr 3, 2018
4 min

If You Don’t “Get” Non-Binary, Read This

The more I read about nonbinary folks and the more I see cis folks try and talk about nonbinary folks, the more I understand that this is just a giant ball of confusion for many people. As someone who has understood gender isn’t binary and has been living as a nonbinary person for way longer than it has been in the mass media, it always surprises me how much so many folks struggle with the concept. So dear reader, here are a few things I think might help clear up some issues.

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Rebecca Blanton

Feb 4, 2018
4 min

Adding the K to “LGBTQ+” – NO

There is a new call to add a K for “kink” to the LGBTQ+ acronym. This call for more inclusion has highlighted a couple of issues in both the queer and kink communities. To be clear, I am against adding kink to the LGBTQ acronym and by extension, the groups which work on behalf of us queers for political rights. Failure to Know Our History The call is promoted by folks who believe the LGBTQ+ community should be inclusive of all groups with any form of alternative sexuality or

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Rebecca Blanton

Jan 8, 2018
6 min

Consent 201

It’s great that vanilla America is finally discovering the idea of consent. Not our judges or politicians apparently, but a large number of non-kinkly folks are starting to think about sex and consent in a way they never have. Articles in widely read papers about the idea of consent and things like Tea and Consent going viral actually speaks volumes about the cultural shifting that is taking place. Less than two years ago I was submitting articles about consent to publication

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Rebecca Blanton

Jan 3, 2018
5 min

Is Non-Binary the Future of Gender?

News headlines are floating around about 20 percent of Millennials identifying as “non-binary.” This is based on a new study by GLAAD working with Harris Poll which looks at acceptance of sexual and gender identities. The initial headlines caught my attention because most news outlets framed this as “20 percent of Millennials identify as non-binary.” This is actually a huge number when you start to think about it. Even lumping together the different non-binary identities (e.g

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Rebecca Blanton

Nov 7, 2017
4 min

What Most Bi Folks Won’t Tell You

Twitter has decided they want to wipe out bisexuality. Over the past week, Twitter has hidden any photos with the hashtag “bisexual.” The official reason for this is that they are trying to reduce spam and unwanted porn. But in actuality, Twitter is trying to silence bi folks. You are probably aware that bisexuality is an “thing.” You may even know a bisexual or two. Here are a few things us bi folks haven’t talked about much, especially with non-bi folks 1. We are tired of

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Rebecca Blanton

Oct 11, 2017
1 min

Olly Olly Oxen Free

We come out today because Cleve designed and Gilbert sewed; Alvin danced And RuPaul doesn’t always wear pants. Leslie got the Stone Butch Blues Patrick let Machos Sluts be his muse. Because Harvey led, Sheila did too. Larry did while making conservatives go “boo hoo.” Janet and Laverne took a stand. before even most queers would lend them a hand. Because queens and fairies Fought arm in arm Tired of police doing them harm. Because Mattachine and Daughters of Blitius got sick

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Rebecca Blanton

Aug 2, 2017
3 min

The Problem with Passing

I pass as a heterosexual cis-female and I hate that. I have always passed (well, more or less) regardless of what I wear, my hair, binders, softees, make-up on and off… I pass. Sure, there have been periods of time when I have worked really hard to not pass and yes, I get mistaken for a man a lot. But by and large people see me and think I’m just another heterosexual cis-female. The older I get, the more I pass. I put on weight in my 30s and strapping down DDs is a lot tricki

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Rebecca Blanton

Jul 5, 2017
4 min

Pronoun Wars, Part II

The other night I was at a poetry open mic billed as a “safe space” for the LGBTQAII community. As per the norm in such spaces, the host was asking each person who signed up what their preferred pronouns were. This has become common practice in a lot of queer and sex positive spaces. I gave her my honest answer, “I don’t care.” My partner was in line behind me to sign up. The host asked him the same question. He replied “male” but after walking away, said he was very offended

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Rebecca Blanton

Jun 26, 2017
5 min

Sex and the Resistance

It is Pride month. This year is particularly politically charged. There are fights about adding black and brown stripes to the Pride flag. There are articles on how to be an ally to queer and trans folks. There are fights about how to incorporate trans folks more visibly and inclusively into Pride. There are lots of articles this year about recognizing bi folks as part of the community. I don’t know about you, but I am exhausted. Amidst all the talk of intersectionality, alli

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Rebecca Blanton

Jun 16, 2017
7 min

On Being “Beautiful Ugly”

Guest Author: Joie de Vivre Joie de Vivre is a the co-producer of Peepshow in San Francisco and a burlesque performer. She regularly performs with the Hubba Hubba review and other troupes. I have been a huge admirer of hers for some time. She graciously agreed to be a guest blogger about being beautiful ugly. You can find Joie at on Facebook. Not everyone gets to be beautiful, and I’m one of them. That isn’t self-hatred, it’s statistics — a few of us are beautiful, a few of u

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