I work with a lot of kinky folks of all identities and levels of experience. When I talk to folks from the left side of the slash, they...

Communication is key. You have heard it hundreds, if not thousands of time when it comes to creating successful relationships and...

If you read much sex writing or feminist think pieces you are probably innunadate with work on the ‘orgasm gap’ and the admonition to...

As more of us get vaccinated and back out there, so many of y’all are posting about having a slutty summer. Yay! I strongly encourage...

Safe words are one of the most referenced kink ideas. The concept of a simple word which stops all action and indicates someone is not...

I am a huge fan of lube as a normal part of sex. I have been using it since I discovered it in my teens. It is essential for fisting,...

Shyness is something I have had a problem with personally. However, I have had several partners who are deeply reticent to talk about...

Journaling is a common communication technique recommended in the kink community. However, most of us hate to write. I include myself in...

Dear Readers, I’m back after a long time off. Unfortunately my health battles continue and there is no help from the medical community....

One of the most fortuitous events in my life was discovering the kinky world at about the same time I started puberty. It provided me...

The great thing about the advent of the internet, search engines, and millions of pages with information about kink/BDSM is that it has...

The submissive’s body is a unique thing. Our body is ours, first and foremost. We have the right and the responsibility to keep it safe....

I am a fat girl. I have been for a long time. I don’t mince words or try and elide the fact that I am fat. I am okay with it. Most people...

Insecurity about did in my marriage. Other things killed it, but my insecurity was a big issue. I honestly thought I had conquered the...