Healthy couples fight. Most healthy couples don’t fight often, but disagreements do arise, emotions heighten and we fight. Its actually a...

It’s National Mental Health Awareness Month so lets talk about power exchange and mental illness. Depending on the source, between 20 and...

Power exchange relationships have many similarities to vanilla relationships. Both require kindness, understanding, communication, and...

So you want to try switching things up. Great! There are a lot of benefits to switching power positions (e.g., a submissive trying...

I am a fat girl. I have been for a long time. I don’t mince words or try and elide the fact that I am fat. I am okay with it. Most people...

Again today, as with so many days, I came upon a thread of women bitching about “no good men left.” As with so many of these threads on...

Submissives are some of the most seductive people in the world. Regardless of what we look like, if we are introverts or extroverts, or...

I love sex! I do. And I think sex is important to most healthy romantic relationships. The old adage is sex is about ten percent of any...

Okay ladies, let’s talk about hair. You know, the hair down there. When I went back out on the dating scene about five years ago I...

By most accounts, unless you are a rape-y cheeto with narcissistic personality disorder, this was a shit year. People are hoping 2017...

People who practice ethical non-monogamy talk a lot about what it means to be ethical in a non-monogamous relationship. But what about...

Immediacy is valued by many. We want what we want and we want it now! The whole concept of delayed gratification has become nearly...

Tips for identifying abuse with the BDSM community and power exchange relationship

I love protocols. I have found safety and security in protocol for years. It helps me get into submissive head space. It can create...

Insecurity about did in my marriage. Other things killed it, but my insecurity was a big issue. I honestly thought I had conquered the...

I know that seems counter-intuitive to most people. Isn’t the role of an s-type based on giving power, sometimes total power, to a...

There are subtle and not so subtle signs a relationship won’t work out. The primary one I have learned to look for over the years is...

I spend a lot of time talking to people and reading social media boards by both polyamorous and monogamous folks. Universally, people are...

8?  25?  105?   300? 1,023? Is there such a thing as having too many sexual partners? Are you a sex addict? Is sex your vice? Is sex a...

We need to talk to our kids about how to watch porn. I have had this conversation a lot since I put out my book last year. I think it is...