There are many styles of nipple clips out there? How do you find the one’s which are right for you? Nipples are erogenous zones for all genders. While most cis-women have had their’s played with and know what works and does not work for them, in terms of stimulation, fewer cis-men and trans folks have had their nipples played with as a key aspect of sex. Nipple play often enhances arousal. In fact, some people can reach climax through nipple stimulation alone! Adding nipple c

Whether you personally are new to kink, or you are dating someone new to kink, it is an exciting time filled with fun and learning! It can also be intimidating, scary, and overwhelming. Knowing what to do, where to go, and where good resources are can be hard to figure out and find. Here are seven tips for the new kinkster to help you find kink that works for you! I. There is No “Right Way” to do Kink Kink is personal. This means your kink can look the way you want it too and

Photo by Kindel Media on Pexels.com Weed is now legal in 18 U.S. states and the District of Columbia; two countries (Canada and Uruguay) and several other jurisdictions (Amsterdam, etc). It is also widely available in states and countries where is is not so legal. With the increasing ease of getting marijuana, more people are using it with sex. Many Americans (and others as well) see marijuana use as socially acceptable and consider it a less-risky drug that alcohol, tobacco,

Aftercare is a frequently mentioned idea in kink/BDSM classes and touted as “important” for safe, sane, and consensual play. Most of the time, class instructors will say to “make an aftercare plan” and mention things like blankets, snuggles and food. However, figuring out what aftercare plan works for you is rarely discussed! Further, many instructors fail to mention any type of aftercare for D-types. So, how do you figure out what aftercare you and your partner(s) need? How

Most people who teach kink and BDSM play classes will mention having the appropriate safety equipment around in case of emergency. However, not everyone mentions what should be included in your basic kinky first aid kit. Never fear! Auntie Vice is here! This post will provide you with a checklist and links to where to buy various kinky safety gear. Honestly, most of it can be purchased at your local drug store, so I have created a downloadable shopping list: Kinky First Aid K

We talk a lot about negotiation in the kink scene. Negotiating what you will and will not do, what you want and what your partner(s) want is kind of kink 101. Most writing addresses negotiation either from a global perspective (e.g., tips for people on all sides of the slash) or as a “how to get what you want from your partner” perspective. There is less information about how to negotiation from the position of a submissive. That, dear reader, is why this post is here! DON’T’

The recent election of the racist cheeto has many folks in the kink community reeling. We are hurt and horrified by the hate harbored in by so many Americans. Many of us, LGBT, POC, women, poly folks and more are terrified about what an Insane Clown Posse administration could mean for our relationships and safety. People are wondering what we can do to protect ourselves and those we love for the possible onslaught to policies to harm us and the unleashing and legitimization o

One of the core principles of BDSM play is that players, all players, have a right to protect their body and mind. We stress consent, negotiation, and communication. This includes agreeing on safe words and what they mean. Most people who practice kink know what safe words are and most respect them. When someone calls “red” (or its equivalent) play stops and the player calling red is attended too. It is a practice I find very necessary and is the basis for the Red Stops Rape