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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog covering kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a submissive or bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.

Rebecca Blanton

May 2, 2019
3 min

7 Reasons to Masturbate Regularly

Most folks I meet assume that I have sex all the time so I must not need to masturbate. Truth be told, my partner lives a couple of hours from me and we only see each other part of the month. Additionally, I have been ridiculously ill for the past two years and that has diminished my sex drive to a nearly non-existent level. Not only have I not been having sex at the frequency I want, I found that masturbation had been relegated to nights I couldn’t fall asleep and needed a h

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Want to Improve Your Sex Life? This Tip Works Every Time!

Rebecca Blanton

Apr 22, 2019
7 min

Want to Improve Your Sex Life? This Tip Works Every Time!

Sorry for the click bait title, but it got you here. Now for some actual substance. I have been talking to a lot of folks over 40 about sex. This is partly due to the fact that I am over 40 and I have a lot of friends over 40 and we talk about sex. The other part is, there is next to no good info out there about sex for folks between 40 and 65. Those of us in this age group disappear from the media. Sex over 40 is seen as such a turnoff that several major magazines have accep

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Rebecca Blanton

Apr 1, 2019
1 min

Episode 13: Invisible Disabilities

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-argr5-aca17a Co-Hosts: Erica Ambrin, Auntie Vice Guests: Ali Yada, Amber Whitford Erica Ambrin (musician, songwriter) joins Auntie Vice to chat music, creativity, writing, and love. She drops an amazing song for the guests. Ali Yada (comic) talks about creating her Invisible Disabilities comedy show, living with anxiety and what meth addiction and Mormonism have in common. Amber Whitford (comic) talks about living with multiple invisible

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Rebecca Blanton

Feb 26, 2019
1 min

Episode 11: Sex Toys!

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-k2rgx-a92a11 Guests: Paul Imagine (adult toy store owner) and Lindsay Hoppe (sex toy reviewer) Auntie Vice and CharRon chat about their feelings about sex toys, being a couple where Auntie Vice embraces sex toys and CharRon is much more hesitant, and using sex toys as a couple. Paul Imagine talks about owning an adult toy store, how folks can get the most out of a visit to their local brick and mortar sex toy dealer, and how many people

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Loving the Consistently Inconsistent Partner

Rebecca Blanton

Jan 4, 2019
7 min

Loving the Consistently Inconsistent Partner

Dear Readers, I’m back after a long time off. Unfortunately my health battles continue and there is no help from the medical community. This means I can only work in spurts right now. We all struggle with consistency at some point. Whether its health issues (physical or mental), work schedules, kid emergencies, family interruptions, holidays or something else, our routines are broken up and we can’t practice kink the way we desire. Since I have been largely confined to bed or

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Rebecca Blanton

Nov 11, 2018
1 min

Episode 9: 40!!!

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-gpaia-9ee5de 40!!! Guests: Evie Vane (author, blogger) and Tina Hayes (Belly Dancer/Model) Auntie Vice and guest co-host CharRon Smith discuss their feelings on turning 40 and what they have discovered now that they both passed that milestone. Evie Vane discusses her award-winning book Bondage for All Bodies, discovering kink after 40, and her work in the bondage community. Tina Hayes discusses how the body positive movement has impacted

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Top 10 Tips for Loving Someone Loving with Mental Illness

Rebecca Blanton

May 17, 2018
6 min

Top 10 Tips for Loving Someone Loving with Mental Illness

It’s National Mental Health Awareness Month so lets talk about power exchange and mental illness. Depending on the source, between 20 and 25 percent of adults experience a mental illness at least once in a lifetime. This means there is a high probability you will, at some point in your adult life, date and/or love someone with a mental illness. Here are the “Top 10 Things” you should know about being in a romantic, kinky relationship with someone living with a mental illness

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Rebecca Blanton

Apr 18, 2018
6 min

R.E.S.P.E.C.T. & Relationships

Power exchange relationships have many similarities to vanilla relationships. Both require kindness, understanding, communication, and support by and for partners to success in the long term. In most cases, both vanilla and power exchange relationships involve sex between the partners. Both types or relationships require respect, but respect is a bigger deal in power exchange relationships than in vanilla relationships. Power exchange relationships (i.e., Dominant/submissive,

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Rebecca Blanton

Jan 19, 2018
6 min

Switching It Up

A couple of months ago I was performing with Bawdy Storytelling and had the great pleasure of hearing Race Bannon tell a story about the first time he bottomed. Bannon is a well-known Master in the kink community and has been for years. He didn’t bottom. One night he tried it and his story is about how eye-opening that experience was. This was followed by phone calls from two female friends both excited to tell me about how they recently fell into a dominant role in a relatio

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Rebecca Blanton

Sep 28, 2017
5 min

Hef, Playboy, & American Sex

With the passing of Hugh Hefner today, lots of sex writers and educators are reflecting on his influence on their lives and work. It is undeniable that Playboy has shaped the ideas of women, sex, and beauty for a huge percentage of Americans since it began publication in 1953. It has peppered the landscape of American sex for the better part of 70 years and has impacted American’s ideas of sex in ways few other magazine’s ever have. My introduction to Playboy was not traditio

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Rebecca Blanton

Jun 26, 2017
5 min

Sex and the Resistance

It is Pride month. This year is particularly politically charged. There are fights about adding black and brown stripes to the Pride flag. There are articles on how to be an ally to queer and trans folks. There are fights about how to incorporate trans folks more visibly and inclusively into Pride. There are lots of articles this year about recognizing bi folks as part of the community. I don’t know about you, but I am exhausted. Amidst all the talk of intersectionality, alli

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Rebecca Blanton

Jan 22, 2017
4 min

Sex, Lies, and Videotape

Lately I feel like I am watching one of those suspense or horror films where the protagonist makes a mistake in the beginning (e.g., running over a grifter near lover’s lane and killing him) and then rather than take responsibility they try to cover up their crime. This, of course, leads to 90 minutes of increasingly bad decisions, increased danger for anyone with them, and lots and lots of unnecessary bloodshed. In this case, it is watching the cheeto. It has been confirmed

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Rebecca Blanton

Nov 27, 2016
5 min

It Burns When I Pee!!!

Let’s talk STIs. Sexually Transmitted Infections. I know, totally not sexy. I get it. You only want certain types of dripping going on down there. But… we need to talk. The middle class may be on life support, civility may be a relic of the past, the gender binary is fading out of existence, but the one thing thriving in the US is STIs. Chlamydia and Gonorrhea are at epidemic proportions. Herpes and HPV are so common there are entire dating cites dedicated to people with thes

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Do It For the Children! Media Representation

Rebecca Blanton

Aug 17, 2016
5 min

Do It For the Children! Media Representation

What is portrayed in the popular media makes a big difference. Not a profound statement, but most people- even those who agree- often don’t wonder how big of an impression popular media has on our self conception. SOME STATS Forensic science, like most science fields used to be dominated by men. In the past 15 years however, women have taken over this field to the amazing statistic of 90 percent of grad students in 2009 were women. A statistic that is not even close to any o

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Rebecca Blanton

Jun 10, 2016
7 min

Consent, 2016 Style

Consent is one of these topics that comes up all the time in the kink community. It will come up in the wider world after a horrific rape makes the headlines, but then it fades. Consent is both very simple and difficult as a topic to discuss. I want to discuss consent within the context of the kink community. For the purposes of this post, I am setting aside consensual non-consent (rape play) because that is a whole topic in and of itself [if you are really interested, I will

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Rebecca Blanton

May 6, 2016
5 min

Measuring Up: Part Two

I was invited to roast a friend’s husband for his birthday last night. She started the show by mentioning they had just finished a 27 day challenge where they had sex every day. She mentioned she was never so relieved to start her period and to be able to say, “Not tonight Honey.” Twenty-seven days is impressive. I honestly don’t think I have done anything voluntary for 27 days – pleasurable or not. But, when it comes to sex, how does 27 days in a row measure up? And how abou

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Rebecca Blanton

Apr 30, 2016
3 min

Sex Facts: Measuring Up

People have a ton of questions about how they match up against others in bed. Most of us are confident with one skill and question our effectiveness in other areas. We worry about being too big or too small, to dry or to wet, going to long or to fast. So, where do you stack up? I have delved into the various academic and medical journals about sex and sexuality to give you, dear reader, some answers. Does it matter if my girls are small? Not particularly. In a study in the Jo

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Rebecca Blanton

Apr 26, 2016
3 min

Is This Weird???

Simple answer… yes, yes it is. Regardless of what you do, it is weird to someone. One the the most shocking things I do or say is that I am not into all kink. I will be talking to someone, they will bring up a kink or fetish of some kind, and I will tell them I am either just not into it or I think it is weird. Its not that I think it is wrong or bad, just weird. I shock people because they tend to know what I do and think that by extension I would be into all kink. I am not.

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Rebecca Blanton

Apr 25, 2016
3 min

Am I Doing this Right????

Its the most common question I see of new kinksters, “Am I doing this right?” It comes in several versions, “I think I am a Domme, but I am not sure I have the stuff to top,” or “I am a woman, I am supposed to be submissive, right?” or “Maybe I just haven’t found the right partner, but what I am doing doesn’t seem to quite fit me.” First, there is no one way to do kink right. Kink is a journey. It requires time, experimentation, growth, and mistakes. It requires reading, and

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Rebecca Blanton

Apr 3, 2016
5 min

On Virtue and Vice

8? 25? 105? 300? 1,023? Is there such a thing as having too many sexual partners? Are you a sex addict? Is sex your vice? Is sex a hindrance to a loving relationship? Is it a good thing to be very sexually experienced? I have the pleasure of talking to a lot of people about their sex lives. Questions about how many partners is too many and is there an issue if you have only had a few partners are regular topics of conversation. People worry about how much sex they are hav

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