With shelter in place orders dragging on more folks are trying sexting and sexy video chatting as an alternative to in-person hook-ups. The problem is that most of us feel uncomfortable when we start trying to be sexy in a new medium. Like teenage flirting awkward. So, what can you do to make these things less awkward and awesome? Here are six tips. Start Slowly If you are new to sexy talk or video chat, it can be difficult to know where to start. Avoid the desire to cut to t

Social distancing has definitely put a cramp in many sex lives. Online dating profiles are now including things like, “I have toilet paper reserves.” Orgies are being cancelled. And bars are limited capacity or closed. So, what are kinky folks to do? The coronovirus is so bad gays are starting to just sleep with their boyfriends again. Lana Del Gay (Twitter) There are actually lots of safe and fun ways to keep the kink up while still practicing social distancing. Its totally

Shyness is something I have had a problem with personally. However, I have had several partners who are deeply reticent to talk about their needs and desires. It can be hard to open up about desires. Most of us are raised in cultures where talking about sex and kink desires is seen as shameful or bad. Couple that with a natural tendency to be quiet or an introvert and letting people know what you want and don’t want can be very difficult. I have had a few shy partners or part

Living with anxiety is a bitch. We all experience anxiety at some point in our lives. However, lots of folks live with anxiety as part of a clinical disorder or health condition. In the U.S., 18 percent of adults (over 40 million of us) live with clinical anxiety. This persistent and excessive worrying is difficult on the person with anxiety as well as on the people who love them. Anxiety can interfere with relationships and with a person’s sex life. Worrying about how you lo

There are subtle and not so subtle signs a relationship won’t work out. The primary one I have learned to look for over the years is narcissism. Anyone who is very self-focused and believes their needs are more important than other people will doom a relationship. This is, of course, not the DSM-V definition of narcissism, but the over-elevation of one’s self and unwillingness to take the needs of others into consideration is a huge roadblock for relationships. All successful