At some point in the last decade culture in the United States started demanding that people be certain about everything. We collectively...

Talking about “triggers” and starting posts and group discussions with “trigger warnings” is now de riguer in the kink community. It has...

By now, you have probably seen images from BDSM/kink movies or pornography. You may have tied up a date or given someone a spanking. It’s...

I get naked in public… a lot. I do burlesque and performance art with a number of groups and much of it involves taking my clothes off....

Vice.com just put out an article about people seeking to qualify polyamory as a sexual orientation. It’s not, but don’t stop reading....

What is portrayed in the popular media makes a big difference. Not a profound statement,  but most people- even those who agree- often...

After teaching my class “Power Exchange and Mental Illness” several times and corresponding with folks online who have read my writing...

Service is quintessential to much of submission. Submissives of many ilks incorporate some form of service into their submission. We...

When I woke to news of the mass murders in Orlando last month I was devastated. The pain was visceral. I cried for days. Dozens of my...

When someone says they were raped, many people ask, “So, did you say ‘no?'” It is a common question in court and in police...

My first serious girlfriend told me I was not worth the risk to marry because I had Bipolar. She knew this when we got together. Still,...

I have been overwhelmed by the number of stories in the past few weeks about the horrors brought about by men who did not feel like they...

Sex positive has become a new catchphrase in the professional word of sex educators and writers and body-positive movement folks. I am...

The first time I was really made aware of the fact that I was a “girl” was in first grade. Until this point, I had remained blissfully...

First, let me get a few things in the open (if you are not already familiar). One, I like sex. I like it a lot and believe it should be...

I am sick about the news from Orlando this morning. I am sick of living in a country that allows churches and mosques and temples to...

Consent is one of these topics that comes up all the time in the kink community. It will come up in the wider world after a horrific rape...

Its June, which means its Gay Pride Month (or LGBT Pride, or LGBTQAAI Month, or whatever). Most cities, large and small, have some...

There are subtle and not so subtle signs a relationship won’t work out. The primary one I have learned to look for over the years is...

I have had to come out about things a few times in my life. I’m queer. I’m bipolar. I am kinky. None of these things are obvious at first...