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The Gift of "No."
We are at the start of a new calendar year. This means folks out here with lots of resolutions to do new things, restart practices they...
Rebecca Blanton
Jan 7, 20245 min read
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Closing out 2023/Looking forward to 2024
Dear Readers: Thank you for staying with me for the year! Whether you recently found me or you are a long-term reader, I appreciate you...
Rebecca Blanton
Dec 20, 20232 min read
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2023 Annual Gift Guide
Looking for great gift ideas for everyone you like? I have some great small businesses and individuals offering amazing products,...
Rebecca Blanton
Nov 25, 20232 min read
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Finding Out What You Really Want from Intimacy
Sex education is all sorts for messed up! The best we offer kids is showing them how to put a condom on a banana. To quote Dr. Sprankle:...
Rebecca Blanton
Nov 9, 20234 min read
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Why I Support (Some) Gatekeeping in Kink
I will get back to posts about developing your desires shortly. There is currently a developing issue in the kink education world I feel...
Rebecca Blanton
Oct 22, 20238 min read
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Asking for It
I've seen an increasing number of studies demonstrating that female (researchers only asked cis women) desire declines in long term...
Rebecca Blanton
Oct 6, 20234 min read
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Guide to Making Butt Stuff FUN!
This post has been sponsored by LoveHoney. Curious about anal sex? Not a fan of anal sex but want to try other butt stuff? Your Auntie...
Rebecca Blanton
Aug 28, 20235 min read
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Male Masturbation: A touchy subject
This article was sponsored by LoveHoney. I personally endorse their toys! Check out my review here. Male Masturbation: A touchy subject...
Rebecca Blanton
Aug 25, 20234 min read
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Become a Better Submissive by Understanding Internal Narratives
There are as many reasons people enjoy submission as there are folks who submit in sex or relationships. Our desires for power exchange...
Rebecca Blanton
Aug 10, 20232 min read
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Deeper and Deeper....
The physical activities of kink - spanking, tying up people, blindfolds- are what most folks think this lifestyle is all about. Putting...
Rebecca Blanton
May 28, 20233 min read
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Security Protocols: How Adding Protocols to Your Relationship May Reduce Anxiety
Anxiety is a common mental health issue. Protocols in a relationship can help reduce and manage it.
Rebecca Blanton
Mar 13, 20237 min read
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Negotiating Flexibility Into Your Dynamic
So often newer kinky folks hold up the 24/7 dynamic as the "pinnacle" of kinky relationships. The fantasy of this dynamic is that it...
Rebecca Blanton
Feb 7, 20234 min read
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Resolutions and Practices of Happy Couples
Sponsored by LoveHoney With the New Year just around the corner, many of us will be working on our resolutions for 2023. But in the midst...
Rebecca Blanton
Jan 9, 20233 min read
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Find a New Kink for 2023
As we close one calendar year and move into the next, many of us take time to evaluate and make goals or wishes for the coming year. If...
Rebecca Blanton
Dec 19, 20224 min read
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Grooming as BDSM and D/s
Most of BDSM and kink skills focus on techniques for different types of play (e.g., flogging, spanking). However, the world of BDSM is...
Rebecca Blanton
Nov 3, 20227 min read
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Menopause Just as Likely to INCREASE Sex Drive as Decrease It
A Myth Busting Survey by Fun Factory and Momotaro Apotheca (post sponsored by Fun Factory) Highlighted Results ● 42% of women aged...
Rebecca Blanton
Oct 19, 20223 min read
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Undoing Religious Damage with BDSM
How to start addressing trauma and damage from a sex-negative upbringing.
Rebecca Blanton
Sep 7, 20225 min read
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Ayzad: Embracing Duende
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-bhbzt-12a4b26 Guest: Ayzad Former Italian journalist turned kink writer and coach, Ayzad joins Fat...
Rebecca Blanton
Aug 21, 20221 min read
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Is Your Kink Practice Missing Something Critical?
If you have been listening to Fat Chicks on Top , you know I’ve been talking to a variety of kinky folks who entered the scene over 20...
Rebecca Blanton
Aug 19, 20225 min read
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Nika Cherrelle: Powerful Badass
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-s7hhi-129b90f Guest: Nika Cherrelle: podcaster, fine artist/sculpture, educator, coash Nika...
Rebecca Blanton
Aug 14, 20221 min read
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