If you are new-ish to kink you may be under the impression that power exchange and kink are specifically for sex and intimate play time....

Feeling bad about your body is common. Regardless of your actual weight, height, ability, shape, gender, or age, anyone can feel bad...

Physical accessibility is only part of the picture when it comes to making spaces and events accessible. That is often the easy part! If...

Listen on Spotify Want to stimulate the biggest sex organ for anyone? You need to get their brain aroused! While many of us rely on...

January 2021 brings both the desire to set goals for the new year and marks ten months in various stages of lockdown for most of us. Many...

With the 2020 election just days from now, I have spent an enormous amount of time thinking about power: structural power, institutional...

I’m feeling old and crotchety after a month of Pride. Maybe its because I have been doing Pride for more than three decades and it is not...

In the kinky world we use a lot of labels. Queer, kinky, top, bottom, Master, slave, Domme, submissive, baby girl, pet, Daddy, switch,...

Hello Readers! Sorry I have been away for so long. I had a severe infection and no help from doctors. But, despite the deplorable state...

The other night I was at a poetry open mic billed as a “safe space” for the LGBTQAII community. As per the norm in such spaces, the host...

In The Princess Bride one character keeps using the term “inconceivable.” Every time he says something is inconceivable the thing...

The presence of non-binary gendered folks is becoming more known. Some groups in the kink and queer worlds are starting to recognize that...

Sex positive has become a new catchphrase in the professional word of sex educators and writers and body-positive movement folks. I am...

I have been called out on this blog several times for referring to myself as a “girl.” There are people out there, mostly women, who hate...

The timing of this post is prompted by a discussion currently occurring on Fetlife (major social network site for the kink community). A...

I experience language differently than a lot of people. Words have sound and meaning, and I can see them written on a page as other do,...