There is no safe or "safer" way to erotically choke someone. Louder for those of you with earbuds in: THERE IS NO SAFE OR "SAFER" WAY TO...

Books This is a list of queer books that have stayed with me. I provide only the citation and genre so that you can enjoy them without...

Most people think BDSM is just about the sex. It is often reduced to sexual and sexualized acts, especially in mainstream media...

I launched my podcast project Fat Chicks On Top a few months back. I have been recording and building content since March. Its been a...

For those of you unfamiliar with Fetlife, it is a social media site for kinky folks (kinky defined very broadly). Currently, there is a...

News headlines are floating around about 20 percent of Millennials identifying as “non-binary.” This is based on a new study by GLAAD...

With the passing of Hugh Hefner today, lots of sex writers and educators are reflecting on his influence on their lives and work. It is...

Lately I feel like I am watching one of those suspense or horror films where the protagonist makes a mistake in the beginning (e.g.,...

This morning Trump released a barrage of tweets speculating that former beauty queen Machado had made a sex tape. Of course, as with most...

I had the great honor this weekend to chair a panel at CatalystCon in Los Angeles. I presented a panel with Joie de Vivre and Diana Hong...

I have had to come out about things a few times in my life. I’m queer. I’m bipolar. I am kinky. None of these things are obvious at first...

We need to talk to our kids about how to watch porn. I have had this conversation a lot since I put out my book last year. I think it is...

Must all porn oppress women? Can porn be freeing and uplifting for women? What the hell is “feminist porn?” I have written about feminism...

We, as a society, need to talk a lot more about variants on sexuality and relationship styles. For a long time I have maintained that the...