The Gift of "No."
We are at the start of a new calendar year. This means folks out here with lots of resolutions to do new things, restart practices they...
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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog about submission, kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
Mar 28, 20224 min read
The #1 Thing Dom(me)s Hate!
I work with a lot of kinky folks of all identities and levels of experience. When I talk to folks from the left side of the slash, they...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 17, 20221 min read
Fetlife How-To’s
Thought about joining Fetlife.com but have some concerns? Worried that your employer or ex-spouse will find your account and out you?...
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Rebecca Blanton
Oct 23, 20215 min read
BDSM Tips for Beginners
Sponsored Post from HotCherry.com Of all sex practices, BDSM might just be the most misunderstood. Many people associate it with...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 18, 20214 min read
BDSM Beyond the Bedroom
If you are new-ish to kink you may be under the impression that power exchange and kink are specifically for sex and intimate play time....
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 2, 20215 min read
7 Tips When You Are New to Kink
Whether you personally are new to kink, or you are dating someone new to kink, it is an exciting time filled with fun and learning! It...
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 3, 20203 min read
New Year! Better, Kinkier YOU!
I am so excited to announce I will be working with Wicked Grounds to host “30 Days of Kinky Self-Discovery” in January 2021. So many...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 11, 20194 min read
What Owning a Cat Taught Me About Kink, Polyam, and Sex
I’ll be honest, I have never been a huge cat fan. I mean, you adopt this pet who poos in your house, who is petty and controlling, and...
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 21, 20189 min read
Negotiation 101 for Subby Types
We talk a lot about negotiation in the kink scene. Negotiating what you will and will not do, what you want and what your partner(s) want...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 23, 20185 min read
5 Questions for a Kinky First Date
The great thing about the advent of the internet, search engines, and millions of pages with information about kink/BDSM is that it has...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 4, 20185 min read
Planning a Scene
I love planning scenes. Figuring out the details, setting up the situations, and preparing the tools and clothing for a scene has always...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 18, 20186 min read
R.E.S.P.E.C.T. & Relationships
Power exchange relationships have many similarities to vanilla relationships. Both require kindness, understanding, communication, and...
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Rebecca Blanton
Mar 8, 20173 min read
In Praise of “Just a Phase”
We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...
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Rebecca Blanton
Dec 6, 20165 min read
Good Kinky Fun vs. Abuse
If I am really honest about some kink behavior, it looks like abuse out of context. I have seen more than one play scene where the bottom...
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Rebecca Blanton
Nov 2, 20164 min read
Are Safe Words Necessary?
One of the core principles of BDSM play is that players, all players, have a right to protect their body and mind. We stress consent,...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 26, 20167 min read
Consent: 2016 sstyle
One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...
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Rebecca Blanton
Sep 12, 20164 min read
On Certainty
At some point in the last decade culture in the United States started demanding that people be certain about everything. We collectively...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 10, 20167 min read
Consent, 2016 Style
Consent is one of these topics that comes up all the time in the kink community. It will come up in the wider world after a horrific rape...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 26, 20163 min read
Is This Weird???
Simple answer… yes, yes it is. Regardless of what you do, it is weird to someone. One the the most shocking things I do or say is that I...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 25, 20163 min read
Am I Doing this Right????
Its the most common question I see of new kinksters, “Am I doing this right?” It comes in several versions, “I think I am a Domme, but I...
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