You receive messages about sex and sexuality your entire live. From the media you watch, listen to, and read, to how your parents...

Most of us, whatever our gender, whatever our sexual orientation, do not love our bodies. Or, we do not love our bodies most of the time....

In the kinky world we use a lot of labels. Queer, kinky, top, bottom, Master, slave, Domme, submissive, baby girl, pet, Daddy, switch,...

I pass as a heterosexual cis-female and I hate that. I have always passed (well, more or less) regardless of what I wear, my hair,...

Guest Author: Joie de Vivre Joie de Vivre is a the co-producer of Peepshow in San Francisco and a burlesque performer. She regularly...

I have never chosen a partner to make a political point. However, I live in a country where my body and my sexuality are constantly under...

People who practice ethical non-monogamy talk a lot about what it means to be ethical in a non-monogamous relationship. But what about...

Insecurity about did in my marriage. Other things killed it, but my insecurity was a big issue. I honestly thought I had conquered the...

I had the great honor this weekend to chair a panel at CatalystCon in Los Angeles. I presented a panel with Joie de Vivre and Diana Hong...

What is portrayed in the popular media makes a big difference. Not a profound statement,  but most people- even those who agree- often...

I have had to come out about things a few times in my life. I’m queer. I’m bipolar. I am kinky. None of these things are obvious at first...

People have a ton of questions about how they match up against others in bed. Most of us are confident with one skill and question our...

Recently I have seen a lot of memes and other social media that is similar to the above posting. They all have examples of parents...

I want to talk about perceptions versus reality of submission. There are a lot of misconceptions for both vanilla folks and newbie...

I always have to laugh a little when vanilla folks ask me what I did with friends over a weekend. Whenever I say something like “Dinner...