“We need to talk.” Its the sentence many of us live in fear of hearing from our partners. When we get a text or a message or a partner...

Dear Readers, I’m back after a long time off. Unfortunately my health battles continue and there is no help from the medical community....

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-gpaia-9ee5de 40!!! Guests: Evie Vane (author, blogger) and Tina Hayes (Belly Dancer/Model) Auntie...

The great thing about the advent of the internet, search engines, and millions of pages with information about kink/BDSM is that it has...

It’s National Mental Health Awareness Month so lets talk about power exchange and mental illness. Depending on the source, between 20 and...

Power exchange relationships have many similarities to vanilla relationships. Both require kindness, understanding, communication, and...

It is probably the most common thing I hear or see written about submission: The submissive is really the one in charge. The sub can stop...

Again today, as with so many days, I came upon a thread of women bitching about “no good men left.” As with so many of these threads on...

I love sex! I do. And I think sex is important to most healthy romantic relationships. The old adage is sex is about ten percent of any...

By most accounts, unless you are a rape-y cheeto with narcissistic personality disorder, this was a shit year. People are hoping 2017...

Tips for identifying abuse with the BDSM community and power exchange relationship

I love protocols. I have found safety and security in protocol for years. It helps me get into submissive head space. It can create...

Insecurity about did in my marriage. Other things killed it, but my insecurity was a big issue. I honestly thought I had conquered the...

There are subtle and not so subtle signs a relationship won’t work out. The primary one I have learned to look for over the years is...

I spend a lot of time talking to people and reading social media boards by both polyamorous and monogamous folks. Universally, people are...

Guys, some of us girls have found out your secrets. We know that there are a lot of you who use online dating sites to find Ms. Right Now...

I teach a class about setting a scene from the submissive’s perspective. I spend about 90 minutes talking about engaging the 5 senses and...

How to identify the difference between BDSM discipline, BDSM punishment, and abuse in a realtionsihp.

I will begin by saying that I am thrilled five of the members of the Supreme Court were enlightened enough to understand that gay...