How to Love Your Anxious Partner
Living with anxiety is a bitch. We all experience anxiety at some point in our lives. However, lots of folks live with anxiety as part of...
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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog about submission, kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
Aug 21, 20189 min
Negotiation 101 for Subby Types
We talk a lot about negotiation in the kink scene. Negotiating what you will and will not do, what you want and what your partner(s) want...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 23, 20185 min
5 Questions for a Kinky First Date
The great thing about the advent of the internet, search engines, and millions of pages with information about kink/BDSM is that it has...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jul 12, 20185 min
Sexual Healing (part 2)
When I was in one of my basic psychology courses in undergrad, the professor described sublimation with the following example. Say you...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 27, 20185 min
Sexual Healing (part 1)
The theme of healing through kink has come up repeatedly in both my reading and real life a lot lately. For me, this is a touchy subject....
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 9, 20186 min
5 Skills for Fighting Fair in Kinky Relationships
Healthy couples fight. Most healthy couples don’t fight often, but disagreements do arise, emotions heighten and we fight. Its actually a...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jun 4, 20185 min
Planning a Scene
I love planning scenes. Figuring out the details, setting up the situations, and preparing the tools and clothing for a scene has always...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 22, 20184 min
Identifying vs. Becoming
In the kinky world we use a lot of labels. Queer, kinky, top, bottom, Master, slave, Domme, submissive, baby girl, pet, Daddy, switch,...
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Rebecca Blanton
May 17, 20186 min
Top 10 Tips for Loving Someone Loving with Mental Illness
It’s National Mental Health Awareness Month so lets talk about power exchange and mental illness. Depending on the source, between 20 and...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 25, 20188 min
Fetlife Protest Isn’t Just a “Feminist Thing”
For those of you unfamiliar with Fetlife, it is a social media site for kinky folks (kinky defined very broadly). Currently, there is a...
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Rebecca Blanton
Apr 18, 20186 min
R.E.S.P.E.C.T. & Relationships
Power exchange relationships have many similarities to vanilla relationships. Both require kindness, understanding, communication, and...
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Rebecca Blanton
Feb 4, 20184 min
Adding the K to “LGBTQ+” – NO
There is a new call to add a K for “kink” to the LGBTQ+ acronym. This call for more inclusion has highlighted a couple of issues in both...
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Rebecca Blanton
Jan 22, 20185 min
7 Tips for the New Switch
So you want to try switching things up. Great! There are a lot of benefits to switching power positions (e.g., a submissive trying...
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