I have been called out on this blog several times for referring to myself as a “girl.” There are people out there, mostly women, who hate...

HIV/AIDS has played a prominent role in my life. The first volunteer work I started with at 13 was volunteering for an AIDS organization...

One of the things I like most about the BDSM/kink community is the presence of rules and structure. These come in basic rules for...

I love Halloween. Its basically the primary gay holiday in the U.S. I love dressing up, going out, having a ton of fun, and finishing the...

Okay, I get that most people not in the kink community believe that kink and BDSM only refer to sex. I get that kink and BDSM are very...

I like porn. I struggle with that fact at times. I know the industry can be very exploitative and that the body images featured in porn...

You Got To Be Real – Cheryl Lynn (1978) There are few things in English I hate more than the insistence of modifying a social construct...

I stand on the shoulders of giants. Men and women and transfolks who came before me, fought the impossible fights, loved with great...

We, as a society, need to talk a lot more about variants on sexuality and relationship styles. For a long time I have maintained that the...

I have had the benefit of being part of the both the queer and kink communities for a very long time now. Part of being part of sexual...

I have been asked several times in the past few months about what I think about the growing visibility of kink. With the massive...

We are all born naked. Everything else is drag. ~RuPaul I want to take a concept from sexual orientation and evolve it to relate to...

The timing of this post is prompted by a discussion currently occurring on Fetlife (major social network site for the kink community). A...

I experience language differently than a lot of people. Words have sound and meaning, and I can see them written on a page as other do,...

I am a feminist. I am a submissive. This is my choice. There is no conflict between the two for me. However, my submission is not an act...

This is an open letter to anyone who has recently discovered that there is a kinky world out there and they now think they want to...

For a long time it was odd to me that I could be in a social situation where my multiple intimate partners were present, we would all be...