I can’t believe I haven’t written a blog post on topping from the bottom! How could I be so remiss of addressing a topic which comes up...

One of the most fortuitous events in my life was discovering the kinky world at about the same time I started puberty. It provided me...

Living with anxiety is a bitch. We all experience anxiety at some point in our lives. However, lots of folks live with anxiety as part of...

We talk a lot about negotiation in the kink scene. Negotiating what you will and will not do, what you want and what your partner(s) want...

When I was in one of my basic psychology courses in undergrad, the professor described sublimation with the following example. Say you...

The theme of healing through kink has come up repeatedly in both my reading and real life a lot lately. For me, this is a touchy subject....

Healthy couples fight. Most healthy couples don’t fight often, but disagreements do arise, emotions heighten and we fight. Its actually a...

I love planning scenes. Figuring out the details, setting up the situations, and preparing the tools and clothing for a scene has always...

In the kinky world we use a lot of labels. Queer, kinky, top, bottom, Master, slave, Domme, submissive, baby girl, pet, Daddy, switch,...

It’s National Mental Health Awareness Month so lets talk about power exchange and mental illness. Depending on the source, between 20 and...

For those of you unfamiliar with Fetlife, it is a social media site for kinky folks (kinky defined very broadly). Currently, there is a...

Power exchange relationships have many similarities to vanilla relationships. Both require kindness, understanding, communication, and...

There is a new call to add a K for “kink” to the LGBTQ+ acronym. This call for more inclusion has highlighted a couple of issues in both...

So you want to try switching things up. Great! There are a lot of benefits to switching power positions (e.g., a submissive trying...

A couple of months ago I was performing with Bawdy Storytelling and had the great pleasure of hearing Race Bannon tell a story about the...

It’s great that vanilla America is finally discovering the idea of consent. Not our judges or politicians apparently, but a large number...

I have been thinking a lot about apologies lately. Nationally, men have been issuing varying forms of apologies for sexually harassing...

The submissive’s body is a unique thing. Our body is ours, first and foremost. We have the right and the responsibility to keep it safe....

The U.S. kink community, like the rest of the United States, is experiencing a growing divide between the “haves” and “have-nots.” As...

I want to address the apparently growing trend of discovering and practicing kink without connecting to actual humans you are not having...