Sex and the Resistance
It is Pride month. This year is particularly politically charged. There are fights about adding black and brown stripes to the Pride...
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Love letters to a unicorn is a blog covering kink, power exchange, and sex from the perspective of a submissive or bottom. It provides sex toy reviews and a vetted list of resources as well.
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 26, 2017
- 4 min
Should Kink Assimilate?
Kink, in many forms, is now more popular and more visible than ever. I knew we had gone mainstream when American Dad, Family Guy and...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Mar 8, 2017
- 3 min
In Praise of “Just a Phase”
We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Feb 2, 2017
- 3 min
Kinky Resistance
Let’s talk about the idea of “religious freedom” and why it is absolutely imperative for all of us to be as queer and kinky as possible....
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jan 31, 2017
- 2 min
My Body, The Asshole
I have written before in this blog about living with and engaging in power exchange relationships while living with a mental illness. I...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Dec 19, 2016
- 3 min
36 Questions You Should Ask Your Partner(s)
Immediacy is valued by many. We want what we want and we want it now! The whole concept of delayed gratification has become nearly...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Dec 6, 2016
- 5 min
Good Kinky Fun vs. Abuse
If I am really honest about some kink behavior, it looks like abuse out of context. I have seen more than one play scene where the bottom...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 22, 2016
- 3 min
Giving Thanks
Since Thanksgiving is this week in the United States, I am going to step out of the series of posts on community building and give thanks...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 10, 2016
- 3 min
Build Community, Not Walls
The recent election of the racist cheeto has many folks in the kink community reeling. We are hurt and horrified by the hate harbored in...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 8, 2016
- 2 min
My First Times
Since America is voting today and will either get the first female president or its first/last dictator supreme, I figured I would post...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 2, 2016
- 4 min
Are Safe Words Necessary?
One of the core principles of BDSM play is that players, all players, have a right to protect their body and mind. We stress consent,...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Oct 20, 2016
- 5 min
S-type Must be Autonomous
I know that seems counter-intuitive to most people. Isn’t the role of an s-type based on giving power, sometimes total power, to a...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Oct 11, 2016
- 5 min
Is BDSM Inescapably Racist?
I love the BDSM community. I love kink. It is integral to who I am and how I see the world. I love the aesthetic, the values, and the...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Sep 26, 2016
- 7 min
Consent: 2016 sstyle
One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Sep 12, 2016
- 4 min
On Certainty
At some point in the last decade culture in the United States started demanding that people be certain about everything. We collectively...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Sep 7, 2016
- 5 min
Triggers
Talking about “triggers” and starting posts and group discussions with “trigger warnings” is now de riguer in the kink community. It has...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Aug 17, 2016
- 5 min
Do It For the Children! Media Representation
What is portrayed in the popular media makes a big difference. Not a profound statement, but most people- even those who agree- often...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jul 19, 2016
- 3 min
The Need to Serve
Service is quintessential to much of submission. Submissives of many ilks incorporate some form of service into their submission. We...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 10, 2016
- 7 min
Consent, 2016 Style
Consent is one of these topics that comes up all the time in the kink community. It will come up in the wider world after a horrific rape...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 16, 2016
- 5 min
Comimg Out
I have had to come out about things a few times in my life. I’m queer. I’m bipolar. I am kinky. None of these things are obvious at first...
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