I was lucky enough to get to interview Mir Green from Wicked Grounds today and it helped me refine a few thoughts I have been playing with sharing here. I was interviewing them for my podcast Fat Chicks on Top. They joined the conversation expecting to talk all things kinky (me too, btw) and 45 minutes later we were deep into a political discussion. For those of you familiar with either Mir or myself, you won’t be surprised by this at all. After all, kink, queerness, and poli

Whether you personally are new to kink, or you are dating someone new to kink, it is an exciting time filled with fun and learning! It can also be intimidating, scary, and overwhelming. Knowing what to do, where to go, and where good resources are can be hard to figure out and find. Here are seven tips for the new kinkster to help you find kink that works for you! I. There is No “Right Way” to do Kink Kink is personal. This means your kink can look the way you want it too and

I am so excited to announce I will be working with Wicked Grounds to host “30 Days of Kinky Self-Discovery” in January 2021. So many people are looking for ways to develop and explore their kinks. There are great books, blogs, and classes out there. However, sometimes we need a space to connect with others in our kinky journey and work through what we need from our kinky sex lives, our relationships, and ourselves. 30 Days of Kinky Self-Discovery is designed to help participa

Hot take: A majority of folks you date will have dissimilar sexual needs and tastes than you do. Most couples I have met over my 40+ years have mismatched sexual needs. This can come in the form of frequency of sexual desire, needs around who initiates sex and how, what activities are desired, or a combination of all of the above. Being part of a sexually mismatched couple can range from mildly annoying to a massive issue in the relationship. My mother, a therapists, is fond