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Is Non-Binary the Future of Gender?
News headlines are floating around about 20 percent of Millennials identifying as “non-binary.” This is based on a new study by GLAAD...
Rebecca Blanton
Jan 3, 20185 min read


Power of Apologies
I have been thinking a lot about apologies lately. Nationally, men have been issuing varying forms of apologies for sexually harassing...
Rebecca Blanton
Nov 21, 20177 min read


What Most Bi Folks Won’t Tell You
Twitter has decided they want to wipe out bisexuality. Over the past week, Twitter has hidden any photos with the hashtag “bisexual.” The...
Rebecca Blanton
Nov 7, 20174 min read


The Submissive’s Body & Chronic Pain
The submissive’s body is a unique thing. Our body is ours, first and foremost. We have the right and the responsibility to keep it safe....
Rebecca Blanton
Oct 23, 20177 min read


Beyond ” Me Too”
This weekend, the call for women (sic, originals post was problematically gendered) to post “me too” on their Facebook page to indicate...
Rebecca Blanton
Oct 16, 20175 min read


Olly Olly Oxen Free
We come out today because Cleve designed and Gilbert sewed; Alvin danced And RuPaul doesn’t always wear pants. Leslie got the Stone Butch...
Rebecca Blanton
Oct 11, 20171 min read


Hef, Playboy, & American Sex
With the passing of Hugh Hefner today, lots of sex writers and educators are reflecting on his influence on their lives and work. It is...
Rebecca Blanton
Sep 28, 20175 min read


Non-binary: Real or Rebellion?
Hello Readers! Sorry I have been away for so long. I had a severe infection and no help from doctors. But, despite the deplorable state...
Rebecca Blanton
Sep 25, 20177 min read


Help! I’m Kinky and I’m Broke!
The U.S. kink community, like the rest of the United States, is experiencing a growing divide between the “haves” and “have-nots.” As...
Rebecca Blanton
Aug 7, 20175 min read


Interview with PrideMatters
Interviewer @pridematters1 First of all could you tell our followers how you identify yourself? I identify as Queer. I am agender and...
Rebecca Blanton
Aug 7, 20171 min read


The Problem with Passing
I pass as a heterosexual cis-female and I hate that. I have always passed (well, more or less) regardless of what I wear, my hair,...
Rebecca Blanton
Aug 2, 20173 min read


Get Out of Your Head!
I want to address the apparently growing trend of discovering and practicing kink without connecting to actual humans you are not having...
Rebecca Blanton
Jul 16, 20175 min read


Pronoun Wars, Part II
The other night I was at a poetry open mic billed as a “safe space” for the LGBTQAII community. As per the norm in such spaces, the host...
Rebecca Blanton
Jul 5, 20174 min read


Sex and the Resistance
It is Pride month. This year is particularly politically charged. There are fights about adding black and brown stripes to the Pride...
Rebecca Blanton
Jun 26, 20175 min read


On Being “Beautiful Ugly”
Guest Author: Joie de Vivre Joie de Vivre is a the co-producer of Peepshow in San Francisco and a burlesque performer. She regularly...
Rebecca Blanton
Jun 16, 20177 min read


Landmines and Pride
Everyone fucks up. It is the result of being human beings. Pride this year has presented one million more ways for us to screw up and...
Rebecca Blanton
Jun 15, 20173 min read


Bi Pride
It’s Pride month again. This is the second year pride comes when I have a male partner and we are exclusive. This makes pride events...
Rebecca Blanton
Jun 8, 20172 min read


Talking to Fat Girls About Your Body
I am a fat girl. I have been for a long time. I don’t mince words or try and elide the fact that I am fat. I am okay with it. Most people...
Rebecca Blanton
May 31, 20172 min read


Should Kink Assimilate?
Kink, in many forms, is now more popular and more visible than ever. I knew we had gone mainstream when American Dad, Family Guy and...
Rebecca Blanton
May 26, 20174 min read


Agender – What does that mean?
I find being agender weird. Most days, really about 98 percent of the time, I could care less about my gender. I am a feminist for...
Rebecca Blanton
May 8, 20173 min read
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