I spend a lot of time talking to people and reading social media boards by both polyamorous and monogamous folks. Universally, people are...

I debated a lot before I decided to post this blog entry. I have been active in the LGBTQ movement for thirty years now. I know the...

I was invited to roast a friend’s husband for his birthday last night. She started the show by mentioning they had just finished a 27 day...

I was working on my next blog post about measures around sex and research findings and planned on posting it today, then the American...

People have a ton of questions about how they match up against others in bed. Most of us are confident with one skill and question our...

Simple answer… yes, yes it is. Regardless of what you do, it is weird to someone. One the the most shocking things I do or say is that I...

Its the most common question I see of new kinksters, “Am I doing this right?” It comes in several versions, “I think I am a Domme, but I...

I have been preparing to teach a class at subCON this weekend in NYC. The great thing about teaching any subject is that you are forced...

April is National Poetry Month! In Sacramento, there are a bunch of poets celebrating by doing guerrilla performances of their work. Here...

8?  25?  105?   300? 1,023? Is there such a thing as having too many sexual partners? Are you a sex addict? Is sex your vice? Is sex a...

We need to talk to our kids about how to watch porn. I have had this conversation a lot since I put out my book last year. I think it is...

Recently I have seen a lot of memes and other social media that is similar to the above posting. They all have examples of parents...

Must all porn oppress women? Can porn be freeing and uplifting for women? What the hell is “feminist porn?” I have written about feminism...

I write a lot about interracial dating and am open that I tend to date Black men. I want to address the personal ads and online dating...

“Submission is a gift.” I hear that phrase constantly in the kink community. I hear submissives say it. I hear Dom(me)s say it. Switches...

I have been called out on this blog several times for referring to myself as a “girl.” There are people out there, mostly women, who hate...

American’s are weird about sex. Very weird. We use sex to sell everything in America from hamburgers to perfume to children’s toys. We...

I have been away from this blog for a couple of weeks due to illness. For two and a half years I have been trying to get some chronic...

First, let me make clear that the way I am using “unicorn” here is as people do in the polyamory community: a bisexual woman seeking a...

I want to talk about sources and research about BDSM and D/s relationships. With the development of the Internet, it has become very easy...