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Embracing Sex Writing
I am an accidental sex/kink blogger. This site started five years ago as a book promotion site for a book I really didn’t think too many...
Rebecca Blanton
Jan 9, 20203 min read
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Introduction to Cock and Ball Bondage
Guest Post by Jett Oxy Perhaps you have always fantasized about binding balls, but not quite sure about your ability to pull it off?...
Rebecca Blanton
Dec 28, 20195 min read
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Pain and Presence
There are different theories on how people “should” deal with pain. Some folks argue for being present with the pain. Some argue for...
Rebecca Blanton
Oct 5, 20195 min read
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Pain. The Good, The Bad, the Fun!
There is the myth that the Inuit have some amazing number of words for snow. They don’t- but we have all heard the myth. The concept is...
Rebecca Blanton
Sep 14, 20195 min read
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Sexier Sex? Plan for it!
I can remember the first time I read Macho Sluts by Pat Califia. While all the sex was really hot, a few of the stories stood out because...
Rebecca Blanton
Aug 27, 20194 min read
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I’m Tired. Can We Just Shut Up and Fuck?
I’m feeling old and crotchety after a month of Pride. Maybe its because I have been doing Pride for more than three decades and it is not...
Rebecca Blanton
Jul 2, 20196 min read
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Scared? Tips to Conquer Fears
Fear is innate to the kink experience. The is the fun and sexy fear of not knowing what is going to happen to you during a scene. There...
Rebecca Blanton
Jun 21, 20196 min read
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Why Collars Are Important to BDSM
Guest Post By: Spices of Lust Your BDSM experience is personal to you — and your partners. It’s meant to be whatever you make of it, and...
Rebecca Blanton
Jun 18, 20193 min read
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Add a Buzz to Your Sex Life: Introducing Toys
The first time I ordered a sex toy I was 19. It was a vibrator from Good Vibrations in San Francisco. I can remember not knowing really...
Rebecca Blanton
Jun 12, 20196 min read
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Flip It and Reverse It: Protocols for Dominants
I adore having protocols in a relationship. Those rules and rituals power exchange couples create to serve their relationship provide a...
Rebecca Blanton
May 29, 20196 min read
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Adult Playtime: Adding Games to Your Love Life
One of the things I have always loved about BDSM and kink is the value it puts on play. Kinky folks call all the different activities we...
Rebecca Blanton
May 23, 20196 min read
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Shy? Here is how to open up
Shyness is something I have had a problem with personally. However, I have had several partners who are deeply reticent to talk about...
Rebecca Blanton
May 16, 20195 min read
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How BDSM Can Make Sex Accessible
Howdy Readers! I’m quite in this article along with Kristie Shultz who is an awesome disability advocate and educator! Disability...
Rebecca Blanton
May 3, 20191 min read
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7 Reasons to Masturbate Regularly
Most folks I meet assume that I have sex all the time so I must not need to masturbate. Truth be told, my partner lives a couple of hours...
Rebecca Blanton
May 2, 20193 min read
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Single and Submissive: What is a subby type to do?
Most of us can identify to some extent with these memes in the heading. Long periods of time in adulthood without regular sex with...
Rebecca Blanton
Apr 25, 20195 min read
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Journaling (when you HATE to write)
Journaling is a common communication technique recommended in the kink community. However, most of us hate to write. I include myself in...
Rebecca Blanton
Apr 15, 20194 min read
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“We Need to Talk”: Ambiguity in Relationships
“We need to talk.” Its the sentence many of us live in fear of hearing from our partners. When we get a text or a message or a partner...
Rebecca Blanton
Apr 2, 20195 min read
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Submissives and Self Care
Being a service sub myself, much of my joy in life comes from caring for other people. I get an absurd level of joy from things like...
Rebecca Blanton
Mar 8, 20194 min read
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What Owning a Cat Taught Me About Kink, Polyam, and Sex
I’ll be honest, I have never been a huge cat fan. I mean, you adopt this pet who poos in your house, who is petty and controlling, and...
Rebecca Blanton
Jan 11, 20194 min read
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Bonus Clips! Alice in Bondageland and Bevin
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-2jizs-a4090b Bonus Clips!! Our producer CharRon has put bonus material together from some of our...
Rebecca Blanton
Jan 9, 20191 min read
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