Consent 201
It’s great that vanilla America is finally discovering the idea of consent. Not our judges or politicians apparently, but a large number...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 21, 2017
- 7 min
Power of Apologies
I have been thinking a lot about apologies lately. Nationally, men have been issuing varying forms of apologies for sexually harassing...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Aug 2, 2017
- 3 min
The Problem with Passing
I pass as a heterosexual cis-female and I hate that. I have always passed (well, more or less) regardless of what I wear, my hair,...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jul 16, 2017
- 5 min
Get Out of Your Head!
I want to address the apparently growing trend of discovering and practicing kink without connecting to actual humans you are not having...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jul 5, 2017
- 4 min
Pronoun Wars, Part II
The other night I was at a poetry open mic billed as a “safe space” for the LGBTQAII community. As per the norm in such spaces, the host...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 15, 2017
- 3 min
Landmines and Pride
Everyone fucks up. It is the result of being human beings. Pride this year has presented one million more ways for us to screw up and...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Jun 8, 2017
- 2 min
Bi Pride
It’s Pride month again. This is the second year pride comes when I have a male partner and we are exclusive. This makes pride events...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 26, 2017
- 4 min
Should Kink Assimilate?
Kink, in many forms, is now more popular and more visible than ever. I knew we had gone mainstream when American Dad, Family Guy and...
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Rebecca Blanton
- May 8, 2017
- 3 min
Agender – What does that mean?
I find being agender weird. Most days, really about 98 percent of the time, I could care less about my gender. I am a feminist for...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Mar 8, 2017
- 3 min
In Praise of “Just a Phase”
We are living in an age where certainty is demanded. Any time someone changes their mind or expresses any level of uncertainty, people...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Feb 22, 2017
- 3 min
Liminal Existance
A friend of mine, an immigrant from Eastern Europe, just became an American citizen. Upon receiving her passport, she posted on Facebook...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Feb 12, 2017
- 5 min
Stop Hitting Yourself!
In The Princess Bride one character keeps using the term “inconceivable.” Every time he says something is inconceivable the thing...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Feb 2, 2017
- 3 min
Kinky Resistance
Let’s talk about the idea of “religious freedom” and why it is absolutely imperative for all of us to be as queer and kinky as possible....
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Rebecca Blanton
- Dec 6, 2016
- 5 min
Good Kinky Fun vs. Abuse
If I am really honest about some kink behavior, it looks like abuse out of context. I have seen more than one play scene where the bottom...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 19, 2016
- 5 min
Kinky Folks, We Better Work
Hey my kinky peeps! I love you. I do. But, as a community, we have got some work to do. We are not inclusive as we should be. We are...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 16, 2016
- 5 min
This Isn’t About JUST Race
We are six days out from the shock of the cheeto’s election. Things are starting to clarify how various social justice groups are going...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 10, 2016
- 3 min
Build Community, Not Walls
The recent election of the racist cheeto has many folks in the kink community reeling. We are hurt and horrified by the hate harbored in...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Nov 9, 2016
- 2 min
Dear Republicans…
I know you are dancing and drinking and celebrating what you see is your candidate winning. I know you don’t get why most Americans (and...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Oct 11, 2016
- 5 min
Is BDSM Inescapably Racist?
I love the BDSM community. I love kink. It is integral to who I am and how I see the world. I love the aesthetic, the values, and the...
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Rebecca Blanton
- Sep 26, 2016
- 7 min
Consent: 2016 sstyle
One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...
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