It’s great that vanilla America is finally discovering the idea of consent. Not our judges or politicians apparently, but a large number...

I have been thinking a lot about apologies lately. Nationally, men have been issuing varying forms of apologies for sexually harassing...

This weekend, the call for women (sic, originals post was problematically gendered) to post “me too” on their Facebook page to indicate...

It is Pride month. This year is particularly politically charged. There are fights about adding black and brown stripes to the Pride...

It is probably the most common thing I hear or see written about submission: The submissive is really the one in charge. The sub can stop...

One of the best things about the kink community is that it places consent front and center of community values. Not only do groups talk...

Talking about “triggers” and starting posts and group discussions with “trigger warnings” is now de riguer in the kink community. It has...

By now, you have probably seen images from BDSM/kink movies or pornography. You may have tied up a date or given someone a spanking. It’s...

When someone says they were raped, many people ask, “So, did you say ‘no?'” It is a common question in court and in police...

Sex positive has become a new catchphrase in the professional word of sex educators and writers and body-positive movement folks. I am...

Consent is one of these topics that comes up all the time in the kink community. It will come up in the wider world after a horrific rape...

I was working on my next blog post about measures around sex and research findings and planned on posting it today, then the American...

We need to talk to our kids about how to watch porn. I have had this conversation a lot since I put out my book last year. I think it is...

The first time I underwent education to prevent rape was in 7th grade. I was 11 years old. The girls PE class was given a week of...

This year marks 30 years of activism for me. In 1986 I started my first volunteer gig with and HIV/AIDS outreach and support organization...

If you practice consensual non-monogamy, can you cheat? The short answer is, “Yes.” I practice ethical non-monogamy. My friends who are...

California has enacted SB695, a law which will now required high schools in California to teach students about the concept of...